When you look too closely.

“Take a good look!” “Inspect things closely!” You hear these often, don’t you? Well, I’m here to say that after almost 53 years on this planet, many times its best not to look too closely. “Why is that?” you might ask. “Who cares?” you might think. It is my belief that you should care- and …

I wish people would stop saying these things.

If you are in the mood for a happy sunshine and flowers post- Well this ain’t the post for you. I decided its high time I say it- Some people say things that are simply annoying-and I’m not talking about the obviously atrocious racist chauvinistic things that are to be condemned in every way and …

“I’ll start saving when I have serious money”.

*Before I start- the disclaimer thing- I am not a financial expert, banker or related in any way to Elon Musk. I have done my research-go do yours. Your money should matter to you- because it is the key to your financial freedom-AKA- your freedom. If you happen to be one of those unicorns and …

Why bother making your bed every morning?

“Organized people always make their beds first thing in the morning!” Well sure- I know that. But why?? I mean- Your’e going to mess it up again come evening, and assuming no one (such as, for instance- you mother in law) is coming for a (thorough) visit -and you don’t mind – Then why not …

The lessons I learned from a cat…

All my life, I avoided cats. Simply had nothing to do with them. I was sure I was a dog person- and I was also sure that this is an either/ or situation. Cats do have that distancing spoiled self sureness about them- they always look as if they are doing you a favor by …

“You learn something from everything”- is that so?

Lately, I’ve been experiencing a wave of impatience towards everyone. and everything. Personally, I tend to blame Covid -19, though let’s face it- I don’t go out much anyway and have a zero tendency to get close to people. Maybe it’s the age issue- I tend to blame everything bad I do on my age:”what …

How I became an optimistic pessimist.

“An oxymoron (usual plural oxymorons, more rarely oxymora) is a rhetorical device that uses an ostensible self-contradiction to illustrate a rhetorical point or to reveal a paradox.” (Wikipedia) After many years of focusing on developing expectations- followed by an equal amount of years sent dealing with the disappointments – I believe I found the middle road: I simply have no expectations. Actually- that’s not …

Were our grandmothers right?

My grandmother was something. She could make people squirm with her casual cross-examinations, and always- always -always- had the upper hand , at every discussion. I used to tell everybody at work that she was my mentor when it came to interrogating people on the witness stand. I loved her with all my heart. She …

Embracing the nerd within me.

I know a lot of people who have tattoos. some even have many. Some are very close to me- 2 of my kids+my partner have them- the above picture is the tattoo my son had in honor of our beloved dog, Sirius, who passed away a few months ago. (still brings tears to my eyes …

How I stopped complaining.

I don’t particularly like complaining. Doesn’t necessarily mean I don’t do it- but I don’t enjoy it. I decided on my 50th birthday that I am not about to spend the next 50 or so years , going on and on about things . Either I can change the situation-or I can’t- either way- what’s …