While your’e waiting….

So I was standing in my kitchen waiting for the water to heat (wintertime- instead of forcing myself to swallow cold water, I pour 2 cups of hot water into my water bottle and add a cup of cold water in case I need to drink right then and there- and a slice of ginger …

Spring cleaning my body? yep.

before I start-3 important disclaimers: #1.It is NOT spring yet. Oh come on- I know that. but soon it will be- and I may have told you before- I am one of those strange people that prepares for every situation. I don’t appreciate surprises. I don’t consider them “the joyous happy moments of life” or …

How I became an optimistic pessimist.

“An oxymoron (usual plural oxymorons, more rarely oxymora) is a rhetorical device that uses an ostensible self-contradiction to illustrate a rhetorical point or to reveal a paradox.” (Wikipedia) After many years of focusing on developing expectations- followed by an equal amount of years spent dealing with disappointments – I believe I found the middle road: I simply have no expectations. Actually- that’s not entirely …

Were our grandmothers right?

My grandmother was something. She could make people squirm with her casual cross-examinations, and always- always -always- had the upper hand, in every discussion. I used to tell everybody at work that she was my mentor when it came to interrogating people on the witness stand. I loved her with all my heart. She also …

How I stopped complaining.

I don’t particularly like complaining. Doesn’t necessarily mean I don’t do it- but I don’t enjoy it. I decided on my 50th birthday that I am not about to spend the next 50 or so years, going on and on about things. Either I can change the situation-or I can’t- either way- what’s the point …

Running errands as an introvert!

A few days ago, I was talking to my good friend (we go back more than 25 years of blood sweat &tears at work, and kept our friendship through retirement), and she has this thing where she insists on talking with me when she runs errands around town.   The thing is, she gets really worked …

“Tell me lies, sweet little white lies”. (not Mac, Fleetwood).

white lie: (Merriam Webster) Definition of a white lie : a lie about a small or unimportant matter that someone tells to avoid hurting another person. example: “He told a (little) white lie as his excuse for missing the party”. A few days ago I heard a Fleetwood mac song I didn’t know, so it’s only fair that I …

Take care of yourself. the rest will follow.

This morning I woke up, and it was chilly, and the mere thought of going out for a run was giving me shivers. I got up and made myself a cup of strong coffee, filled my hot water bottle, and got back to bed to contemplate my next steps. Now I know you may be …

Why do I keep asking myself “why?”

When I was “somewhat of a boss” at work. I attended a management course at the university. They taught us all kinds of methods to engage workers in the work they are meant to do. The work they get paid to do. I know I sound old, but all the while I thought “why do …

Perfectionist? sorry- absolutely not.

Last week we were watching some cooking show, and this lady couldn’t finish her dish because she was so meticulous. she couldn’t let anything go. she had to understand every little detail, check and double-check all the ingredients, the dish had to come out perfect -or it was a disaster, all in all-the stress was …