I already told you I live across the street from a kindergarten.

There are pros and cons to this fact- as with everything else in life.

The cons are obvious- morning rush hour in this narrow street is quite challenging, to say the least, resulting in people honking and sharing thoughts out loud.

Also- some people around here are not avid believers in the concept of the public trash bin, meaning they think that whenever they step outside of their own home to the public space, in their opinion, they reached a free space, no need to bother keeping your cigarette bud in your hand until you find a trash bin(“seriously? you want me to hold the disgusting smelly thing in my actual hand???”-(well- you just held it and inhaled it, so, yep, I do have that expectation, as a matter of fact)). The same goes for the empty chips bag, and the latest addition, compliments of the COVID-those wretched used masks.

Also- many times I get to witness the helpless cries of toddlers that find it difficult to figure out who is who in the playground, and I find myself almost charging over to fight their war for them because Even at the ripe age of 53, playground politics is still a mystery for me.

The pros? well, between 16:00 PM and 07:30 AM the next morning the place is as silent as a monastery. no shouting, loud music, guests, teenagers , etc.

Any way- I get to see many parents bring their toddlers to kindergarten and I’ve noticed that the majority of parents walk by their kids into the place- maybe a few -go in holding their child’s hand.

I do hope you’re not thinking: “what is she fussing about, who cares if parents hold their children’s hands when going to kindergarten or not, there are more important things to consider now with that Covid and stuff”.

Because there aren’t. more important things than that. in my opinion.

Because you really don’t need to be a psychiatrist specializing in 4-6 year olds to understand how much strength and assurance and safety they gather from holding the hand of a trusted person prior to entering the place they will have to spend most of their waking hours in- and socialize immensely in.

Whether they like it- or not.

Sure- some kids may love going to kindergarten, they have lots of friends there and they love playing with them and eating with them and everything- but even those kids- may have days of anxiety, days they feel under the weather, don’t like the clothes they are wearing, would rather stay at home, or quarreled with the queen bee of the place.

I do see these kids walking confidently in, not even bothering to say goodbye to their parents- and I’m happy for them because they are probably going to have a nice day.

But they need a hand too- because many cars are arriving in this narrow street at the same time, and someone may be pre-occupied, and it’s always better to be safe, and even if the kid is blessed with self-confidence- a reminder of his-her safety net at home is always a good thing.

And what about the other kids? the ones that have a really hard time finding their place in kindergarten? that are born introverts and would do anything to stay at home and play quietly by themselves?

I see those kids go out of the car silently and start crying a few seconds later when they realize where they are.

I see parents struggling with this-needing to tear their child clinging to their leg, and I remember myself having to go through this agony with my kids, and I feel for them.

One day I saw a mother having a serious talk with her girl while approaching the kindergarten gate.

The girl told her mother she didn’t want to go today, and her mother said that she understands, but that the current situation requires the girl to go today, and she hopes that seeing her friends inside will make the girl feel better.

The girl hesitated, but her mother kept reassuring her that she will come and pick her up this afternoon, and she could tell her everything that happened in kindergarten today this afternoon.

Once they got in the mother held the girl’s hand, the girl relaxed and went to check what’s new and who came before her.

I wonder if that approach could help take the edge off the agony in parting: letting the kids know you do hear them, and you know that they are having trouble, it makes sense to you, but you think they can overcome it, and you would be there for them in the afternoon because you need to go to work now.

But in the meantime- you are holding the kids’ hand, physically letting them know that you’re there for them.

Now there is the other important aspect to consider here- the parent’s point of view.

trust “the school of life” to take a look into that: here is the link:

https://www.theschooloflife.com/thebookoflife/holding-hands-with-a-small-child/?__cf_chl_f_tk=6xaQGQq1L.KkVrInXK2HycY0uOefR5GPTkWSNZNFiUE-1642496823-0-gaNycGzNCL0

Mind you some people enjoy holding their spouse’s hand too-so why not just hold their hand?

Enjoy- the cooliflower.

I am not a medical/health/emotional/financial /nutrition or any other kind of expert as far as it concerns the contents of this blog,  therefore anything written on the blog is not to be taken as any kind of advice, and should you choose to rely on anything  I write on this blog- you are doing it at your own risk and at your own responsibility.

Published by wiseassvegan

an organized full time working vegan -with plenty of ideas on getting everything done in the most simple and efficient way possible.

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