So,  I read an article, written by a psychology professor (no less) that claims women loath frugal men, and list them as non- attractive  partners.

Being a proud frugal +a true believer in seperate accounts as a base line for equality and feminism, I was surprised.

To be absolutely honest- the first thing a skeptic like me thought was: “naaaaaaaaaaaa, no way”. I have this automatic urge to check everything I read or hear, unless it comes from a v e r y reliable source.

Actually- I double-check (secretly) even then.

Because, well, even reliable sources can simply be wrong.

And this claim- that women unanimously detest a specific trait -so much so that they rate it before  other horrid features, for example- being a misogynist, being a self revolving egomaniac, bad body odor, being unhygienic in general, a total slob and owning a controlling mother -all-in my humble opinion valid reasons to be reluctant about a second date-

No- according to this professor- women are sure money pinching is the worst.

So-

A few possibilities open here-

#1: This professor did a mess of data collecting, leading to an honest mistake.

#2: This professor can’t manage his money,  and rejects the fact other men can, hence is compulsed to prove his lack of competence is “charming” -and anyway- “women loath frugal so there”.

#3: (related to #1) The questions asked in this research were along the lines of: “who would you rather date: Brad Pitt or a random frugal penny-pinching guy? (to be specific, I mean Brad Pitt in his “fight club “days-wow that was an epic movie, if you haven’t watched it- just go do it. Edward Norton is one of my favorites and Brad Pitt does not fall behind. I am saying all this although “first rule of fight club is you do not talk about fight club”).

All this was completely off topic. or maybe it wasn’t.

#4: Maybe women do think that a frugal man is non-datable. maybe women think men are supposed to “provide for them”, “take care of them”, “give them money to go to the beauty salon”( I am not making these up I searched the topic online and found a women’s magazine -and a well known one too-   that warned women of calculated men who don’t “give them money to do their hair”(!!!!!!)).

If I understand this line of thinking- then If you are a man, then you need to “step up to your manly duties”, automatically pick the check and not hope for splitting it, buy extravagant jewelry and take women you date to a different restaurant every night (yep- men who insist on cooking and staying in were also shamed in said article) -this behavior will convince your princess that you are a trusted worthy reliable person she can live with for the rest of your lives.

#5: maybe I am totally wrong– and frugality -in men only- is a sign of lack of emotional generosity and support, therefore a frugal man will most likely be a bad idea for a partner.

But that  -in my opinion- lacks logic+ might, in the long run, undermine every feminist accomplishment since the right to vote.

Being dependent on a man to support or pamper you, seeing romantic gestures as money related only, expecting to be presented with constant gifts, and not saving for the future-

Wow- in my experience- the only place relationships like that exist is romantic books and movies.

I truly believe in personal monetary independence as a basis for a respecting equal partnership, jewelry is beautiful but investing in your future is just as beautiful, and open frank conversations and sharing important moments- is more valuable- in my opinion- than a visit to any beauty salon.

Love to hear what you think- the cooliflower.

I am not a medical/health/emotional/financial /nutrition or any other kind of expert as far as it concerns the contents of this blog,  therefore anything written on the blog is not to be taken as any kind of advice, and should you choose to rely on anything  I write on this blog- you are doing it at your own risk and at your own responsibility.

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Published by wiseassvegan

an organized full time working vegan -with plenty of ideas on getting everything done in the most simple and efficient way possible.

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