If you had this romantic notion, that once retired, you will automatically cease to be an up-tight type-A achiever ( that is, of course, assuming you already are, no need to become one deliberately, mind you!),
The mere fact that you are no longer commuting to your cubicle and participating in the race, does not mean you instantly become this mindful wellness yogi, all zen and calmness, spreading love all around.
Well, maybe some do.
Doesn’t seem likely though.
If like me, you spent your years trying to find your way as an introvert in the social jungle of your workplace, while juggling a trillion other things that had to be done, then you simply cannot unwind and become this lovable care Bear the second you say “ciao!!!!! ” to your office desk.
If you are anything like me, then you will quickly understand that all those years of trying to cope with the mechanism of being a “team player”, the drive to be the most efficient and successful worker, the best employee a boss could dream of, just take their toll on you.
If you are anything like me, then you might become an ego-centered, fame-crazed, compliment-reliant person.
And now that you are finally retired- where are you going to get your pats on the head from??
Family and friends usually have other things to do than clap their hands vigorously at every salad you make, and cleaning the house rarely gets you a promotion.
But you are still the same person, in need of assurance, because this is what you’ve become used to.
You need someone to look at your work and say “wow, good job!! you are so brilliant! “.
Napping efficiently does not get you any appreciation.
Just in case you were mistaken there.
So now you (well, I) find yourself looking for ways to become that outstanding retiree everyone is talking about.
So I traveled to India–2-week Intensive yoga course in India-full and honest review!
I mean traveling the world is a retirement must, isn’t it?
I got a license for a small motorcycle and bought one. Making dreams come true at 50
I did a full long first aid course. know how to save a life, right?
I work out. and eat healthily. I started checking my macros-fact-based information on my diet!
I started my vegetable garden: My Organic gardening tips – beginners I got you covered!
And I’ve done my fair share of cleaning strange things around the house.
And yet my mother is disappointed since I have no intention of “doing something with myself”. such as, if she had her way- sitting on some board as a director or something.
I do my best to explain that boring meetings were one of the reasons I made such an effort to retire early, but she keeps hearing from her friends about their successful children and I was supposed to fill that position in her family plan. why do I have to be so different all the time?
But why hide behind my mother- for a long time, I thought I need to find something to do that will make a real impact.
I mean isn’t it a sin to waste time this way? napping in the middle of the day? reading books all the time?
Shouldn’t I be more involved in my community? volunteer more? start projects?
Doesn’t this mean I am not a stellar retiree?
And if I’m not- what will happen to my self-esteem? my ego?
I read blogs like MMM – mister money mustache- and he is so involved and does so many projects that I felt in need of a good nap just from reading it.
And since I am a type-A overachiever, I compared myself instantly to him, and the results were, let’s say, more in line of what my mother thinks of me.
But then I thought-
This is ok. I am fine. I am an introvert and have a hard time being around other people, not to mention being involved socially.
It makes me miserable, and this is certainly not the way I want to spend my early retirement.
So I decided that to each their own: let everyone do their thing, and I’ll do (or won’t do) my thing.
There. I said it.
Now it’s time to be truly ok about it too.
enjoy- the cooliflower.