My Organic gardening tips – beginners I got you covered!

IMG_20190504_133539.jpgAs an early retiree, it is oh so expected that I take on gardening.

So I did.

Can’t break tradition.

2 essential caveats before I start:

#1: I am no professional gardener or anything of the sort. on the contrary, novice, totally.

But- in my humble opinion- not only does that not disqualify me from writing this post- on the contrary- this only makes me more aware of what a novice gardener fears .

So get ready- this is the real deal- including the frugal side, naturally, since I am not only an organic produce enthusiast but also care deeply for the value for cost point of view.

Why not start at the beginning?

The beginning: summer 18-things are looking bad, real bad


Harsh summer, very hot, super dry, neighbors building their house and their workers leaving a large construction machine with its engine too close to the shrubs you see in the picture, my drip irrigation system proved to be a total miss- water was leaking and the garden was slowly but surely dehydrating although we turned the water system 3 times a week.

looking bad, I know.

#2: Determination will get you anywhere! end of summer 18-cleaning the territory

As enthusiastic as I was- couldn’t start working seriously with that pair of broken branch cutters.


Since the cutters are made by a reputable company, a new cutter costs around 100$, so I contemplated my options, knowing that there is no way I can do all that work without those cutters.

So I started looking online and found out you can order new parts via mail for a fraction of the cost of a new one- you only need to get your engineering (no) skills together and understand exactly what each part is called and numbered.

Got through that part (wasn’t easy I tell you) and 2 weeks later-


Mind you I only changed the upper left part of the cutters (dark grey) and scrubbed clean everything else.

#3: getting to work:


Step 4: breaking up with the irrigation system- moving to a full proof yellow hose:


The summer of 2018 was a harsh summer, and as you can see above, our garden suffered from the heat tremendously.

Since I constantly check our water bill, I saw a 200$ bill for May-June 2018, and I was puzzled.

Something was wrong for sure.

So I started checking our water system- every inch of it, and the conclusion was that something must be wrong with the drip irrigation- since the garden was evidently dehydrated though we watered it constantly- or so we thought.

We dismantled the irrigation system and bought this (advertised as) full proof lifetime guarantee hose. and I started watering every day using only the hose.

I can tell you it is June now and our water bill for May 2019 was 20$…


If you care about your garden + water waste+ your water bill:

Either check your water irrigation system constantly to make sure there are no holes and the system is well maintained


If you have the time and energy to invest: use a simple hose and water your garden regularly.   but please remember to water in the very early morning hours, otherwise all your good work and precious water will go to waste , once the sun gets to action.

2 Added bonuses to the second method:

#1: you can check up on your plants, shrubs, trees, and vegetables while you are out there watering-by doing so you get a 100% better chance of detecting disease and other possible problems in your garden.

#2: watering your garden is truly a relaxing job, almost meditative. put on some music and enjoy yourself! If you are brave hearted or can’t see your neighbors then use the time to squat! Try one of the squat challenges !

As it turns out, checking up on your garden every day is a 101  in gardening, and I have no idea how we managed to keep our garden (fairly)alive through all those long years I worked.

This is the problem people-

I simply can’t bring myself to recommend the hose system to full time ,out of the house ,working people. this is simply too much- between work, cleaning, preparing food, exercising, resting, not to mention if you have young kids- you know what-even grown-up kids.

So maybe use the famous middle way- combine both methods- use and maintain an irrigation system 1-2 times a week, and water by hand the other times?

The main thing is don’t forget to keep a close eye on your garden, it is a living thing, and cannot maintain itself.

speaking of which:

#5: keep working!( motivating myself -in a harsh tone- I am the boss of me! )

Since my garden was already covered with trees and shrubs- looking for a proper vegetable section wasn’t an easy mission.

The main thing was finding a place that gets enough sunlight- meaning between 6-8 hours of sun each day.

The only place I found was this plot of land, which we covered a long time ago in volcanic tuff- to prevent weeds.

The thing is there was no way to use the soil since it was contaminated with gasoline the previous owners had spilled years ago. somehow the roses we grew there managed, but no way I was going to take a risk with vegetables…



#6: The solution:


planting pots.

What a genius idea.

I am not promoting the genius company that developed this thing- because I have no idea who that is- but still- If you stumble upon a troublesome soil like I did- or have only a porch to grow your desired veggies- those planting pots got you covered.

Bear in mind that tomatoes are what is called “heavy feeders” -meaning a single plant of tomatoes needs at least 15-20 liters pot to grow, cucumbers can manage in 10-15 liters and peppers in 7-10 liters.

#7: the soil

I went and bought a designated gardening soil (a lot of it- the planting pots have calculating tables to make life easier for you) and combined it with compost -in a 50:50 ratio.

#8: seeds!

I ordered good quality seeds -a batch enough for 2 years cost 25$ -all heirloom and derived from organically grown vegetables.

Didn’t buy plants from a nursery since I decided I was going to learn everything concerning growing vegetables- from seeds to plate.

A youtube channel that I found very helpful is “the rusted garden”- by Gary Pilarchik.

Here is a link: the rusted garden

#9: seeds to seedlings…..


Ok listen people- this was not simple for a novice gardener like me.it was definitely hard work.

All I can say is once you go through your first growing season-the second one will probably look like a child’s game for you…

I bought a heating mat, a special light bulb (used a lamp I had on hand)- the light has to be at least 2000-3000 lumens (lumens measure the brightness of the light) and 5000-6500 Kelvin (a type of light- your seedlings need a light that imitates daylight to grow strong).

You need to give your seedlings 16-18 hours of growing light a day- once they germinated. yes- you can shine the light on them at night if you have a spare room where no one is bothered by the light.

Tomatoes and peppers take 8-12 weeks to get to a young plant stage- and during that time you need to water them regularly -to keep them moist but not soggy- and basically monitor them daily.


Then when temperatures get to about 20 degrees Celcius outside- you can consider transplanting them outside to your planting pots.


Be careful if there are cats or other animals walking about in your garden.

They tend to believe you set the planting pots with the gardening soil and compost- as a special toilet designed for them. so they will dig up all the soil and all your hard worlk will go to waste.

I bought a simple cheap building wire and constructed a wired cage- to deter cats and support my tomatoes- cucumbers when they hopefully fruit.


#10: What about that plate?




So far- we have great cucumbers, a few tomatoes, (I mean really- a few- maybe 3 till now-the rest are still green- waiting impatiently) ) parsley and coriander.

My personal recommendation-

Start with the easiest – cucumbers and green leaves- parsley and coriander. grow lots of these and enjoy your life. the tomatoes and peppers are hard work!!

Remember the sad picture from the summer of 2018?

This is how the same plot looked like in spring 2019.


Lots of compost, lots of water, lots of maintenance.lots of Love. The Beatles were right of course.

Can’t say it was easy- nor cheap-but if you are into fresh healthy organic great tasting veggies and are not afraid of the hard work- get to it!

Enjoy- the cooliflower.











13 days as a dhamma server in a vipassana course: what?? ( no preaching or missionary wisdom included)


I spent almost 2 weeks preparing food and cleaning the kitchen&dishes for more than 100 people.

No payment.

sure- it wasn’t easy- but I enjoyed myself immensely, and moreover- I shall share my tips on how to – just in case you decide this is an adventure you would like to experience.

Mind you that only “old students”- no- not mature in age and wisdom- but people that have completed a 10 day vipassana course, can apply to serve in a course, so first- read my previous post on my 10 day course- 10 days I consider a beautiful and meaningful present I gave to myself for my 50th birthday last year.

here is the link:The birthday presents I gave myself-part 1

for those of you who are curious to check if this is one of those cases where the sequel does not fall short of the original- here is part 2- that has absolutely nothing in common with this post- except for both being presents I gave myself for my 50th birthday.

The second birthday present I gave myself. (part 2)

so- why did I voluntarily submit myself to 13 days of hard labor and not the best sleeping conditions?

Told you in advance I am not about to start preaching about the benefits of the vipassana technique.

First, because I dislike being preached to, and every time I read or hear someone rambling about a certain religion/belief I simply shut down.

secondly, I did my first course on September 18 (aka my birthday, I believe I mentioned this before), and since I did a 3 day service in gardening, helped around a few weekends , sat every day for at least 30 minutes every time, and this round of dhamma service for 13 days. meaning I am by no means an expert on vipassana, and I think the best thing is to simply look online or read the book “the art of living” by William Hart ( I get nothing from anyone by writing this so).

last thing: I think the vipassana technique is well known, and frankly does not need my humble non-professional promoting attempts to thrive.

Having said all that- do yourselves a favor and read a little about the technique, and should you decide that you deserve some time off your hectic life, consider treating yourself to this 10-day course.

I am a known skeptic, practical and cynical person, ( I believe it is enough to say that until I retired 2 months ago I was a lawyer for more than 25 years….you get the drift), and I also happen to believe that, well, I know best what my problems are, and I will also be responsible for getting myself, with a lot of hard work, out of these problems, or if I can’t find a way out, then I, and only I, am responsible for learning how to deal with them.

So just in case you feel the same way – I totally respect that. (obviously).

I respect that so much that I need to mention that this, exactly, is what I find myself doing ever since I completed my first course in September’ and this exctly is the reason I find this technique so intriguing.

No guru. no religion. no one telling you what questions need to be asked, and what the right -or wrong- answers are.

Just Working very diligently on finding a way to deal with the problems I have.

I spent many years working hard as a lawyer,  raising 3 children and taking care of almost everything- but never had the time- or the willpower, to confront me. myself. ( and I).

Time to Actually sit down and contemplate certain behaviors of mine that other people seem to have a problem with, other behaviors of mine that I have a problem with, and my general wellbeing.

The only tool vipassana gives you is the technique itself. learning to concentrate on your breathing and physical sensations, as a means to reach a stable and equanimous mind.

Being equanimous through every sensation you feel, every situation that occurs -no matter how pleasant -or unpleasant the sensation is- is the key to eliminating much of the suffering you go through because of the ignorant way we are accustomed to behave -to react- to every situation that occurs.

This is a very simplistic and unjust description of the technique, and if this by any chance interests you and you are willing to put in the hard work -sitting and diving into yourself- while maintaining an equanimous mind- well- try this out. as I mentioned the course is free of any charges.

But- and this is an important but-

Since an operation as big as this cannot live off air, contributions are welcomed, very welcomed, and when I finished the course I felt such gratification- that I immediately contributed some money, and decided that I will donate more- by serving in a course.

Serving, by the way, was even more appreciated by Goenka g-the vipassana teacher that spread the technique worldwide, since he contemplated that giving money is a sign of a momentary gratification whereas while serving you show your gratification all through the serving period.

Serving means you make sure that the meditators that come to the 10-day course enjoy a full-time meditation experience, without the need to prepare their own food or clean after themselves.

The food we prepared was vegan -including all the main dishes- and desserts too. vegetarians that eat dairy products could have cottage cheese, butter and yogurt- that were served separately- and not included as part of the cooking routine. imagine how delighted I was, to find out that the center I was ecological and minimalistic as well. so the laundry and all the cleaning supplies were free of detergents, and a special effort was made to reuse leftover food- for example- soybean stew was served on one of the days- the little that was left (it just turned out so good with the cumin)- was turned into soy hummus the next day.

A chocolate cake that turned a bit dry- became chocolate cookies the next day and so on.

I also got to join- like all servers- the meditations in the hall- 3 times a day at least- most days it turned to 4 times  a day-including hall duty- (the meditation hall is open for meditators from 04:20 every morning’ and the servers had shifts -that included opening the hall and monitoring that everything is ok with the meditators- until 05:30 when our kitchen shift began).

Another cool thing is that servers are so appreciated that their meditation cushion is located in the front of the hall, close to the teacher (*to be exact- all teachers beside Goenka g are called assistant teachers or a.t).

The servers are not obligated to “noble silence”- that is the 10-day silence and no contact vow that all participants take. they are committed to “right speech” instead- meaning no-nonsense talk- only work and meditation conversations and a special effort is made to separate genders- as much as possible- we all worked together in the same kitchen and naturally, knives were passed and dishes were washed -but I still thought it made sense – and I am by no means a puritan- because a person comes to the center to concentrate on dhamma work- as a way of showing appreciation to the gift of vipassana he got ( at least that’s what I did) and trying to fit in some internal work too through the 3-4 hours of meditation with the course,  and many times the mere presence of other people -can be a distraction.

I am an introvert- so the permission to speak was something I would gladly give up- I didn’t mind the noble silence at all during my course, but I can imagine that extroverts find it even more distracting to be able to meet like-minded people- and not to be able to chat with them freely.

And a few more things weren’t easy.

I didn’t mind waking up at 3:50 am- this is my usual wake up time at home, but- I go to bed at around 20:00- read and fall asleep by 20:50-21:00.

The problem was there was an evening discourse every evening until 20:00′ and then the servers could join another meditation session- and then the servers would join in the hall at 21:00 (……) for meditation and end of the day session with the assistant teacher.

The assistant teacher was wonderful, and the access to him- for any questions or trouble- was a gift. but I had some serious trouble functioning after 20:00 every evening, after a long hard day at the kitchen…

Another thing is the accommodations…

Sleeping in a shared room was one thing, but sharing the bathroom and showers with 5 other women- well that was a real bummer for me.

I am 50 and an introvert- I believe these two were quite clear -it was definitely not easy for me to adapt to this no privacy -having to wait for the toilet-using a shared shower- thing.

But- on the last day the meditators were allowed to talk again, and many of them approached me and thanked me so much for serving them with delicious food and making their meditation experience so good, that every difficulty was gone with the wind, and I was filled with such joy that makes it possible for me to consider the next time I will serve in a course.

The thing about giving back- is that it actually gives you back- so much more….

enjoy your day-the cooliflower.















Frugal tip- taking care of your stuff+easy homemade pizza recipe!

For years I treated my stuff as replaceable.

I didn’t take very good care of it because I thought- ok- if it breaks -I’ll buy another.

I was under the impression that stuff is there to serve me while it lasts, and since buying new is always a nice thing (or so I thought) and since I work very hard and raise 3 kids and take care of the house- I don’t have the time to spare /waste on stuff maintenance.

After minimising my stuff , and understanding the importance of frugality combined with mindful minimalism in the environmental aspect, I understood that I would have to change my attitude towards my stuff.

The first thing I did was start reading the instruction manuals/labels/tags carefully before operating or using any device.

In the past, I bought something, took a look at it, and started using it instinctively, thinking why waste time and effort on reading useless manuals .

Turns out there are a ton of important things you can learn from reading the tags.

For instance-here is my calphalon pan. below are the using instructions.


20190122_145145.jpg 1. hand wash only.

2. for better cooking results- preheat the pan without any oil.

3. after cooking allow to cool before washing.

ok- truth is I would never have done instructions 2+3 hadn’t i read the label.

Another tip is to take a photo of the instructions-labels-warranty and mail it to my gmail -to keep under the products name.

I always keep the receipts, the only thing is I can never remember a year or two later, when the receipt is needed, where I put it….

Sure- you can keep a binder -I did that too- but this leads to heaps of papers -and wasted time looking for the specific receipt when needed. not with gmail/

And no- I don’t have any shares in gmail sadly.

here is another example: my pizza pan.



(Getting nothing from anyone here -so just buy or not- none of my business.)


I would never have saved this warranty tag before- but this is a lifetime warranty and why not take a quick photo and save it? and why not read the using instructions carefully before making the first pizza?

Another tip is to remember to clean your vacuum cleaner and fully recharge it after every use. can’t count the times I began vacuuming the house only to find out it stopped working and needs a 2 hour charge ..

Same goes with the IRobot– to keep it running smoothly- clean it thoroughly at least once a month and change the necessary parts every 6 months- it will hold for much longer.

Your washing machine? definitely needs a full check up once a month.

I clean the filter let it run empty with only citric acid to keep from suds building up and clogging it.

*Do your own research -I have no idea if my tips are good for your stuff too- I do know that the basic principle of learning how to take better care of your stuff- can save you a lot of money and replacing time.

*These are all examples- I can think of many more as I am writing this- like pouring baking soda and vinegar with hot water down my kitchen sink once a month, not pouring my coffee to my sink  unless I threw the coffee grains residue to the compost before (seriously- this is a sure way to clog your sink!) , washing my my wooden floors only with a damp cloth and never leaving water spots on it, changing my dish scrubs every week and so on. 

Before I wrap up- I need to  mention laundry regulations..

#1:The obvious thing is to seperate whites from colours.

#2: separate towels and bed linens from clothes.why? because linens are big and have a tendency to wrap a loving hug around all the other clothes you put in the laundry, and the hugged clothes don’t get much of the laundry cycle besides that hug, which to you is pretty irrelevant I should think.

#3: get a mesh bag for your socks. this will save you time and effort gathering those socks – especially the ones that decided that laundry time is their chance to escape their sock spouse. this will also prolong your machine’s life since instead of the beach in Thailand the escaped socks usually find their way to the machine insides or pipes.

#4: read those labels before putting your precious shirts to the laundry machine…

I admit I never buy garments that need dry cleaning- This is too much of a hassle for me and I’ve read the fumes from dry cleaning are quite an ecological hazard- I am not 100% sure about that but since it is so easy to find great substitutes that are glad to be washed either by hand or in the laundry machine, why bother?

I believe I made my point.

Check your stuff for use and care instructions, take good care of it and save yourself a lot of time and money- all the while minimizing your carbon footprint . yay on all counts.

Now it’s time to learn how to make this great pizza at home.

The dough is from “food network”- here is the link- just click.  great pizza dough

By the way when he writes “dry yeast 1 envelope” I am using 1 tbsp of dry yeast .turns great indeed.

For the sauce- 1 canned tomatoes, tomato paste -small , 1/4 cup water, salt, pepper, a little sugar to contradict the acidity of the tomatoes, heat and stir for 10 minutes on low, add basil or oregano if you like, don’t (add) if you don’t (like), taste and cool a bit. this can freeze well too.

Since my household prefers thin based pizza, I had to learn how to stretch that dough to the maximum- I started with a rolling pin and that didn’t do the job one bit. so I started using my hands, and managed to get the dough to top the pan then quickly put the sauce on top.

Now here you have to be careful- since in my experience- thin dough+regular amount of rich sauce =disaster.

But: thin dough +thin layer of rich sauce=success.

Plus- don’t let the sauce wait on the pizza for too long before entering the oven-in my experience- the sauce tends to wet the thinly stretched dough- you don’t want to go there believe me.

About the cheese– well honestly I mixed the cheese I had in the freezer, (not cheap yet not mozzarella) but in my experience the trick is  to top all the leftovers with good mozzarella- it looks and tastes great -so my household members say. (about the looks you can judge for yourselves:)

By the way- the picture above is one of my pizza’s as well

About toppings- go for it and use what you got- sweet potatoes, olives, whatever.

I always double the quantities, and use 1 kilo of flour -2 tbsp dry yeast and double the rest. it makes 6 medium sized pizzas and I slice and freeze them to be eaten in the next two weeks.

why slice?

Because sometimes my partner/son only want a slice (rarely but happens) and this way they can pop a slice out of the freezer and in the oven for a few minutes- and bam- yummy (or so they tell me) pizza at home for a fraction of the cost.

Really- fraction of the cost.

Try for yourselves.

Enjoy- the cooliflower.











Simplify it: Organizing my online groceries- part 3

Before we begin- In case you wonder where and when happened parts 1+2 – I am more than happy to oblige: here it is: explaining my 3 weekly online grocery shopping, saving time and money .My online grocery shopping: saving money+big time!(and my quick bean stew recipe for no fresh produce situations)

Organizing your online groceries: preparing ahead and simplifying your cooking!(the sequel)

Ok- now that the mystery is solved, we can relax and wonder why parts 1+2 weren’t enough  to get the concept of buying food. what’s the big deal, you might be asking yourselves.

well- the deal is big. it is very big.

Getting the groceries in a frugal and efficient way and making sure you waste almost no food before you get fresh groceries- is great. it is.

but making sure you enjoy the fresh produce that had just arrived, so you waste 0 money, waste 0 time (ordering then throwing away?? what’s the point? surely you can do something better with your time) and most importantly- prompt yourself and your family members- to eat healthier.

#1: I know for a fact, that when fruits are displayed in my house, they don’t need excess prompting to be eaten, as opposed to fruit hiding somewhere.

I am aware this is not a valid option for summer days -but a few fruits can always be displayed in a bowl where everybody can just reach and enjoy.



tomatoes are considered fruit FYI

#2: what about those vegetables? 

I know many times my groceries included all kinds of pretentious vegetables that ended in the compost bin after 2 weeks of being sadly neglected.

This is not only a money waster but also -in my case- made me develop an aversion to those poor vegetables – I constantly felt that they were staring at me from their exile in the fridge, thinking I am not worth their effort.

so -my tip is don’t make any plans the day your groceries arrive, and start dealing with them aspirational veggies you ordered – right. now.

for instance- I used to read all about the benefits of pickled veggies, and decide I am going to incorporate them pickled whatever in my diet the minute the groceries arrive. buy a big batch of beets, and turnips, and such, and time just went by and so did my aspirations.

If I take the time and prepare the pickled veggies on the same day they arrive- check on the quality of your pickles, check on the no waste, and check on the no guilt feelings towards them turnips.


carrots- definitely underrated.

grated them in seconds in my Braun hand blender, added grapefruit juice (I have a grapefruit tree- not wasting that great juice) and dried cranberries.

20190111_102701.jpgor vegetable soup.


0nions- why not?

Pretty+ makes you want to cook.

#3: don’t be shy to display your beans. 

jarsyes it does take some time to get them in the jars but besides it being a feast for the eyes- this increases the chance of you making lentil stew by 79%! and the chances of you making bean burgers by 66%!

20181216_192213.jpg#4: buy minimum condiments- and store them in an airtight jar.

I get that people are taught that in order to cook favorable food you need to have a cabinet -even two- of very exotic condiments.

sorry – in my experience, this is totally untrue,

the fewer condiments you have- in my experience- the greater the chance that you will enjoy using them.

I think people are generally creatures of habit. sure you can go wild from time to time and experiment- but there are so many flavors to experiment with freshly ground black pepper and regular salt+adding paprika- or turmeric, or Morrocan mixed herbs- or soy sauce -vinegar, regular or rice vinegar, olive oil, coconut oil? lemon?curry paste? agave syrup? ginger? the possibilities with basic regular condiments are endless.


Just don’t hide the condiments in a distant drawer out of laziness- or the chances of you making that spicy whatever- will decrease by 98%.present them proudly in tight jars and enjoy them.

speaking of which: ginger- increase the chances of you using it by cleaning -cutting -and freezing it the day it arrives.


Any more tips?

Enjoy- the cooliflower.





Preparing for early retirement: last month at work

So,  early retirement is getting closer and closer.


If nothing changes- my due date is at the end of this (short) month- February 28.

Being a walking irony that I am, the minute I wrote a mail to everyone at work announcing my retirement and inviting them to a modest toast on the 28th, someone at work told me he had heard that in 3-4 months a retirement plan is going to be published.

Now if this is true, this can potentially mean a lot of money I, of course, will not receive since my date is at the end of this month.

At first, I admit I got angry. then I got anxious, then I sat down and thought about it.

This is a lot of money we are talking about.

Should I try to postpone my retirement?

This rumor can be true- and it can be false too.

In the past two years, every 3-4 months a rumor similar to this one starts spreading among workers.

This could very possibly mean I would try to postpone my retirement in hope for a retirement plan to come along- and just sit there waiting for a year and maybe even more.

Of course, there is also the possibility that this rumor is absolutely true- which would definitely qualify me to be the next Alanis Morissette.

I have reached the point at work, where I simply cannot go on anymore.

I mean- if I had no choice, of course, I would go on, but working over 27  years in the same job- well that is a lot of time doing the same thing.

I have reached a point where I am so burned out, that my mind wonders everywhere but to the job I have to do- and this is not good. at all.

I am also very distracted all around, focus only on myself and my situation at work, I am anxious and snappy at home- and of course at work, and to put it mildly- this can’t go on any longer.

I decided that I am not going to change my plans due to this rumor.

Early retirement is a well thought about decision I made a few years ago, knowing fully well that I needed to frugalise my habits since my income will downsize to 60% of my current income.

I learned to be frugal, saved money, and although I have no specific plans for my retirement- I can’t wait for it.

I know that the common understanding is that early retirement should not be used to escape a job you dislike, and you should learn to deal with your situation until you conquer it.

And yet this is exactly what I am doing.

Another mistake I am making according to common knowledge is retiring with no plans. this- according to many people- is bound to drive me nuts.

While I totally respect that, and it might also be true; I simply cannot bring myself to make specific plans right now.

Mind you I am a very planned ahead person, I make lists all the time, I love having structure in my life and I am not scared of chores.

And yet- no plans.

I mean- I know I want to grow vegetables  in my garden; and I am seed growing for a few weeks now:


And since I cook from scratch and clean all scratches- plus my exercise routine- and tending to the garden – not only the vegetables but all of it (I have a small house but quite a large garden – this will be time-consuming. And let’s not forget my beloved blog!

I am an introvert, and being alone has never bothered me- au contraire, and while I am not forgetting the possible void when leaving a management position after many years, I have been thinking about this ego downsizing a lot, read here:Early retirement Jitters-dealing with my ego.

I am spending a lot of time thinking about not being a big shot at work anymore, not getting a lot of urgent calls that need my immediate attention, not being needed at all,

This is not easy for me, certainly after almost all of my adult life after university, I spent at a job where I was always needed and busy.

But I am tired now, and cannot go on giving the way I used to.

It is definitely the time to retire early.

even without plans.

One thing I spent a lot of time contemplating was my cell phone.

I got my cell phone from work- including a plan, and now I need to return my phone -or buy it for 320$, and find a new plan.

So I started looking online. and found myself another phone.

A cheaper one, that has all I need- and is highly recommended for its price.

The cheaper phone is perfectly fine for my needs- I  don’t play games on the phone, I don’t write my posts or anything else for that matter on my phone, and I only need it for basic communication with a few close people, and to listen to music on Spotify while I run or work in the garden.

I also need to take good photos for this blog- but no selfies. I don’t like taking pictures of myself. at all.

So after a lot of searching, I decided on the xiaomi redmi note 6, and this is no advertisement since I haven’t bought it yet- and I get nothing from any company concerning this phone- or anything else.

This phone is going to cost me 227 $ including a 2-year warranty. I am taking the 32 GB and not the 64 GB since I looked online and the word was that only heavy users and gamers have an actual use for that 64 GB and regular users can do fine with only 32 GB.

I also looked for a cheap cell plan and found one that costs 5.5 $ a month and gives 10 Giga of use and free interstate talking minutes.

Since my use is limited as I told you, and I have no love for talking on the phone, this should be enough.

Just to be safe I looked on my phone to see how many Giga I use currently so I have a benchmark- and found out I only use 3 Gb a month so 10 should be more than enough.

The last issue concerning my phone and the one that I hesitated about the most, was my phone number.

I have had the same phone number for a very long time. and my phone is 95% work related.

I sat down and went over my contact list, and hand-picked the few people I would like to keep in touch with after I retire. and the people I need to stay in touch with- plumbing, bank, doctor, etc. I don’t think the list holds more than 40 numbers. mind you I have hundreds currently on my phone.

So after a lot of thinking- I decided to change my phone number, and only notify the people who were on that hand-picked list.

This seems like a small and insignificant decision- but if you think about it – it’s like starting a new life completely.

I wonder how it will go.

3 weeks till retirement day.


enjoy- the cooliflower.

p.s thanks again pixels for a mood capturing photo.



Do you ever stop caring what your parents thinks of you? (heavy personal issues here- beware!)

A  week ago I drove almost 2 hours (each way)  in early morning hours, to visit my mother.

My mother and I have an “interesting relationship”..

I think many women have an “interesting relationship” with their mothers. I am not a psychologist but I know this relationship is a naturally complex one, and research proves it.

read here an interesting article from “psychology today”: mother -daughter relationship

So a few minutes after arriving, I suggested we go for a walk towards the nearby park. my mother is 75 and after surgery, and I strongly believe that physical exercise is crucial for her health.

She looked at me and bluntly said: “i am not going anywhere with you until you put on makeup”. 

At first I thought she was joking. (she has a great sense of humor by the way). when she repeated it – still no smile on her face, and added a  demanding tone to her voice, I realized this was no joke.

This was my mother telling me I wasn’t pretty enough for her without the mask and camouflage of make up. 

(I  stopped wearing makeup since my 50th birthday, (read here why –Why (and how) I stopped wearing any makeup-and a frugal tip!)

Up until that moment, I felt gorgeous .I look at the mirror and smile at my reflection, I go to work feeling good about my appearance, and the whole issue -has stopped being an issue for me for-until those remarks.

I  am 50, for crying out loud -(if you are wondering- I did cry out loud later in my car on the way to work) – and I still care so much what my mother thinks of my personal choices. wow. does this ever stop??

When I was 18 I left home- at first came on weekends, then came on holidays -and since I moved up north- almost 14 years ago- I don’t make the trip that often.

For years I had difficulties enjoying family dinners- although my mother puts a lot of effort and money into the fancy side of hosting: she has expensive cookware and makes many gourmet dishes -but I have genuine difficulties enjoying that food , and for years I didn’t understand why.

Looking back, I realize that my difficulties had/have a lot to do with my unresolved issues with her, issues that led her to say something so offensive- in my opinion- to me.

That got me thinking about my relationship with my kids: am I guilty of the same behaviour? am I letting any of my children believe they are anything short of marvelous?

Should we tell our children our honest opinion about how they look -what they wear- their choice of friends- their school skills?

I mean- should we give them our honest opinion if  they never asked for it to begin with?

Is this our “obligation as parents”?

“If we don’t tell them the truth- how will they improve? ”

It’s been over a week since that visit- and I still can’t stop thinking about it.

I can’t ask my children a direct question -obviously- I can only try to reflect on my relationship with them, and hope that the fact that I honestly think they are the most wonderful human beings to walk the face of this earth– is a good sign that I probably didn’t base my relationship with them on criticism instead of reassuring them that they are wonderful and capable- and therefore can do whatever they wish- even if they sometimes fail.

I have no idea if this is the right way to go – and don’t get me wrong- I’ve had my share of arguments with my children- harsh things were said, and I regret saying 99% of them.

I wish I were a perfect parent, I wish I was that laid back mother earth always calm and relaxed waiting at any hour to feed them with their favourite food and listen to their troubles. I most definitely am not that kind of mother- and honestly I never was.

I work full-time at a very demanding job- lame excuse I know and yet- I almost never waited for them when they came back from school, most of the time I was so tired my eyes closed while they were ranting about their teachers, and I can only say to my defense that I did the best I could.

I hope so.

I hope I never offended them in a way that made them question their choices, their appearance, their partners: themselves.

If you are wondering whether I confronted  talked to my mother about the way I felt -well, no. I didn’t.

I know some may think avoiding difficult conversations such as this one is the wrong way to go, and that you cannot build a healthy relationship when one party has unsolved issues that are repressed .

I am a strong believer in this exact attitude as a general rule .

But in this case-I am hesitating.

I understand some people believe it is ok to give their opinion- harsh as it may be- without sugar-coating it in any way.

Truth is something I value highly, and it seems to be very double-standard of me to be a strong advocate of truth when it suits me- and to deny it and call it unfair and cruel criticism when I am being told something I find offensive. 

Plus- I tend to think that trying to change your parent’s behaviour at a certain age- has a less than 5% chance of succeeding, while more than 100% chance of turning into a major argument involving buried issues from both sides.

I am still thinking about it.I would love to hear your take on this.

the cooliflower.

p.s. thank pexels free photos for a good photo that captured my intention.











Analyzing my everyday expenses: reflecting on 2018- part 2

Aspiring towards early retirement , for me, meant adjusting to a different life style- and a  different spending regime- but- and this is the important point I am emphasizing- the change needed to be permanent- not “only until I reach early retirement- and then- the sky’s the limit “.

And why is that, pray tell?

Because if there is one important thing I’ve learned , although by not being a financial wizard of any kind- is that  the power of saving money, is sometimes even greater than any stock-real estate- bank investment. 

Give me 5 seconds I’ll convince you:

#1: Learning to save , and implementing it on your everyday household spendings- is entirely up to you. as opposed to investments of any kind- where you many times need to trust the impossible combination between other people (owning the business or establishment you are investing in) and luck (which , for me; has been a very discomforting thing to trust)

2: The state agents– such as taxes of any kind or shape- that are usually a “good friend” when you try to invest your money  and make a few $, cannot interfere with your intentions to cut back on your expenses, actually- learning to cut back on your expenses has many tax deterrent benefits- for one thing- no VAT …

#3: learning to save is a skill  that can improve your whole conduct– not only your bank account. think about polishing  your decision -making process, your self confidence (as a direct result of gaining control over such an important aspect of our lives- the monetary aspect), and as a side effect- improving your math skills- and brushing the dust off some of your brain cells!

#4: well naturally- it’s cheaper – all investments cost money. you pay the investment company- the bank-the lawyer who writes the cotract etc’. besides the money invested-you almmost never avoid paying for the chance to make more money from your investment. and yes, a lot can be done to minimise these charges- compare and double check before making any investments- you worked hard to earn this money!

learning to save money, on the other hand- is free as a bird. 

#5: and this is the most important aspect , I believe- is that rare are the people that their financial situation improves once retiring early. I am aware that some people pursue other careers, go viral on youtube or get a bazillion subscribers on their blog- but many of us ordinary people will need to adjust to 60% -70% of our previous income, and without making major life style changes, you might end up not managing at all.

I automatically think of another major lifestyle change- that needs to be permanent : change of eating habits towards healthier eating.

Many people get blood test results and listen to their doctor advising  “cut back  on fats/sweets/processed food etc- for a while“.

Many other gain weight and decide immediately to lose 5 pounds pronto by restricting something from their diet for a while.

Same goes to “12 week exercise routine” ‘ and other short term ways to deal with life changing situations.

What happens afterwards?

If you understand that your whole life is going to change- whether it is your income- your health or your diet, then please please take a moment to contemplate the moment after.

Why bother ahead? because understanding the change is about to become permanent and not “until I reach a certain point”- be it early retirement or a certain weight or a particular race- is a huge factor in preparing towards that change cognitively- and emotionally.

Ok- now that I laid my humble opinion on lifelong major changes, it is time to revisit my household 2018 expenses -so as to learn a thing or two- or three- about my spending habits, for better or for worse.

*I went through my other expenses (Amazon and EBAY) in my previous post- Reflecting on my 2018 expenses-read here. 

*Last thing- the advantages of reflecting back on the past year of household expenses are obvious in terms of learning about your decision making, but also- we all tend to calculate certain obvious expenses into our monthly expenses sheet: food, gas, electricity, water, phone, cable, internet etc. when looking back at the whole year -you get to revisit other yearly expected expenses we tend to forget about: such as school fees, car shop , presents for the kids -etc. these are considerable expenses that need to be taken into consideration even on our monthly finance sheet- divided into 12, ofcourse. 

*One last thing- my partner and I divide the household expenses equally- we don’t have a joint account because he doesn’t mind spending money (YOLO and all that s***) -read here how this works for us: Why I believe in seperate accounts.  

So what you see here is not a basic household full  expense sheet: I pay the electricity +internet bill  and he pays an equal amount for water and property taxes. we split the food expenses equally. I pay for my pool entrance by myself (it’s my thing) and he pays for his cable tv ( I don’t watch any television- read here why I believe this is a great decision I made :How to get up early).

We each pay for our apparel, books, etc- and split our youngest’s education fees and aikido classes expenses between us.

You will notice a difference throughout the year- my second kid was home for a few months before going off abroad- and he is an avid carnivore so..also add to this my annual birthday +holiday presents for the kids- 1500$ total.

Let’s start:

January 2018: 830$:

internet- 50$


health insurance- 75$

fuel- 200$

phone- 35$

pool entrance card (10 entrance )- 120$

(at this point the electricity bill was once every two months this changes soon)

February 2018:1865$

electricity : 200$ (for 2 months)

fuel- 120$

gas- 30$+20$ toll road (this stopped throughout the year)

food- 350$

surgical procedure – 1000$

internet- 50$

health- 75$(in a few months I will learn that I had to stop paying so much and began taking off some of the insurances)

phone- 20$(soon this bill will shrink considerably- wait and see)

March 2018: 963$

fuel -200$

phone- 42$


martial arts- for my youngest- 200$

internet- 46$

health- 75$

April 2018: 4935$

pool entrance- 125$(I will be reimbursed 125$ at the end of the year so )

fuel- 200$

electricity- 125$

food- 400$

health- 75$

vaccinations for guatemala- 15$

internet- 45$

*car for my oldest child- my share- 4000$

May 2018: 767$

food- 500$


fuel- 125$


phone- 22$

June 2018:1585$

fuel- 200$

the machanic alarmed: I had to change the tire- 350$

car shop- 200$

health- 85$

internet- 45$

pool entrance- 125$



July 2018:557$



electricity- 75$

restaurant- my mothers birthday- I treated- 100$

IRobot parts- 60$ (will be good for another 2 years!)

gas- 35$

phone- 32$


internet- 45$

August 2018:672$

electricity- 110$

food- 450$

internet- 60$

phone- 22$

*health- managed to let go finally of some of the insurances- 15$

coffee shop- my middle son insisted on eating something- he is not a frugal person to say the least of it! 15$

September 2018:3967$



new baking oven- the previous one lasted for 6 years and collapsed- 300$- my half

sealing the roof before winter- 500$- my half

Guatemala – 2200$(flights +ninos de guatemala)

school books- 30$

pool entrance-240$

internet- 45$

vet- 12$

health- 15$

October 2018:1370$


school payments- 300$

internet-35$ (told you- managed to haggle with the company and lowered the price)

vipassana donation- 350$

martial arts for the youngest- 205$

fuel- 125$

November 2018:650$





health- 15$

December 2018:946$



health insurance for guatemala- 90$

train ticket to the airport- 6$ (instead of paying a bundle for long term parking and waiting for 45 minutes for the shuttle to the parking lot!)

new entrance door- the previous one almost fell apart…- 400$ -my half


internet- 35$

Ok- now for some conclusions:

#1: the expenses are definitely not consistent: some months ended with a total of 557 $ and then there was that month with nearly 5000$. We (OK-I ) tend to forget unexpected expenses happen all the time– this year I pitched in financing a part of my oldest kid’s car,  we had to buy a new baking oven, seal the roof and buy a new door. I also payed for a surgical procedure and had to pay for a new car tire.  when you calculate your monthly spendings- remember those unexpected always come at a bad time and put some money aside ahead. reflecting on my expenses helped me realise that throwing a number based on usual everyday expenses is accountable only for half the actual expenses…(to be real with myself I summed the total amount (11,507$) and divided it by 12 (months)- 959$. this is my bench mark for next year. not my expected 600$ -this is the number I had in mind when going over my everyday expenses in my head.

#2: haggle -haggle-haggle! I haggled with both health supplier and internet supplier and lowered my bills.

#3: money is there to serve us- not the other way round.this year I gave 4000$ so as to buy my daughter’s car. sure- she could go on riding 4 buses (from home to work to university and back home)- but I managed to help make her hectic life a bit easier-and I am very glad I could do that.

#4: buying grocery online saves money! 

#5: Driving On early hours allows you to save money on fuel! (read here how- How I reduced 25% of my electricity and gas bills ( 5 tips and another V for enVironmentalism)

Hope I encouraged you to make your own lists and reflect on 2018- in order to make 2019 even better.

Enjoy- the cooliflower.




























8 great simple+natural home remedies for winter time!

Winter time.

I am fully aware that some people are not winter fans. but I certainly am.

As a garden owner- the sound of rain makes me happy, as a fireplace owner- temperature drop makes me happy as well.

Winter does have its downsides, that is true, but careful preparation and awareness can minimise those down sides- and we are all about minimalism, right?

A fair warning: the advice about to be distributed here is old, granny-like, non fashionable, and super effective!!! so if you are all about “what are people gonna say when they see me do this or that”- well then- perhaps you are wasting your precious time reading this post. or change your attitude and start doing what is good for you-even if it not considered “cool” by the “right people”. 

#1: Get a hot water bottle!

ok I am aware that some people might laugh at this- until you try it!

This is my hot water bottle- fancy, I know.

When I get up at 4 am , in winter time, the first 2 things I do are getting myself a hot cup of black coffee, and-since the boiling water are waiting for someone to make use of them- I fill my hot water bottle- and snuggle  quietly , waiting for my senses to fully wake up so I can start my day.

Don’t dismiss this till you’ve tried it.

This thing can warm you up in seconds, it helps with back aches and stomach aches (warming up the place), sore muscles , etc.

Plus- it’s super cheap. and to maximise its utility simply warm up double the amount every time you make yourself a cup of tea, and when it gets cold- use the water for your plants,, cleaning or whatever.

#2: Always leave a window open! 


There are tons of people around me that make sure all windows are sealed tightly as soon as temperatures drop a little. whenever I try to explain to them that this is exactly the reason they are all sick-they allow germs to gave close and immediate access to many people at once without even the slightest chance of anyone escaping due to lack of air- they look at me astounded and say : but its cold! if you are cold- you get sick!”

Well I am no doctor, but I believe it is  basic knowledge that “disease is spread by infection-not by temperature drop” . if anything- as far as I know- low temperatures prevent/delay germs from spreading, since basically germs are fond of warm temperatures-and dislike cold ones.

I am certainly not advocating snow baths or anything- just make sure that wherever you are- there is an open window for fresh air ventilation. even a small window.

And if you are cold- than I would frugally advise on a fire place, or if you don’t have one yet- use tip #1!

#3: wear layers!

Besides it being very fashionable , this is a super efficient way to get warm -(something to do with air being caught between the layers )- and -if temperatures change -you can accommodate yourself by taking off or adding layers as you wish.

#4: keep your feet warm!

This is something I used to always hear from my mother- “keep your feet warm and your whole body will be warm!”- and I must say she was right. about this anyway…

Plus there are such cute socks around- why let your feet freeze?

#5: When your throat hurts- gargle salted hot water.

This is something I did as a child’ did with my older kids, and still do!

It might not be the most pleasant thing on earth -and yet it is effective!

*Checked on-line- it was medically approved too! here is the link to webmd: webmd- gargling salted water.

I put 1 tsp of salt in 1 cup of boiling water, make sure all the salt dissolves , and when possible to gargle- gargle the whole thing .

If you are trying to avoid pharmacy bought lozenges for whatever reason -and I can think of a few- than this is your perfect natural replacement!

#6: Drink a lot of tea! tea will cure anything! 

Well personally I believe this is absolutely true.

When ill -drinking lots of fluid will help you feel better, when cold- it will warm you up. when in need of emotional comfort-this is a soothing cup of niceness, and when adding ginger and lemon- it’s also very healthy. 


#7: When ill- eat “chicken” soup ( I mean vegan “chicken soup, of course).

I am aware that some people believe that a “proper chicken soup” (meaning made of actual chicken) is necessary for you to get better from a cold , but I believe the benefits are not in the chicken, but in the hot -vegetable containing -fluid, so just make a pot of spicy veggie soup, feel free to add some miso/lentils for extra taste . (if we are on the subject- here is a link to a great recipe by the “minimalist baker” great vegan recipes!-miso soup- the minimalistbaker.com.)


#8: If your back aches- don’t lay still all day! 

I used to believe that when your body tells you it is unwell-you need to listen’ and rest-rest-rest. 

I still believe that is true, but recently I experienced a bad back ache, and when searching on -line I discovered that the immediate total rest in bed I imposed on myself- was in fact delaying my recovery. (just reminding that I am no doctor or chiropractor whatever- use your brain as always to decide whether to use my tips or ditch them. or simply search online for yourselves. just in case -here is my disclaimer)

Apparently- according to what I read- when your back aches, you need to keep it in motion, massage the aching spots and gradually -in a few days- it will get better. when in Guatemala, I had a bad back ache, and it didn’t get better until I looked online for back -ache exercises ‘ and massaged my lower back with the only thing I had that resembled the tennis ball they recommended for massaging- a bar of soap , wrapped with a soft wool sock. I used the bed cover at my homestay as a “yoga mat” -for the back exercises, and after a few days of light exercise and massage- I could get on the 3 flong flights back home…


*Add tip #1 to your exercises and you will feel much better in even shorter time.

These are the 8 great natural tips for today- feel free to share any great tips you have!

Enjoy and happy new year!  the cooliflower.

















10 hour layover in Amsterdam: how to change your point of view and have a great time!(and happy balanced new year!!)

As I grow (older and )wiser, I realise that there is so much truth in the simple & common phrase:”your perspective shall determine your experience”.

Every incident I bump into – or bumps into me- I breathe, contemplate its consequences, and try to look at it in a positive way.

What I learned over the years is simple- bordering embarrassing to share -and yet I will share nonetheless:

If I get myself worked up about something unpleasant that happened , things will generally deteriorate quickly into “a situation” that needs “handling” , “getting over”, and “stop obsessing about”.

whereas if I breathe, try to see the situation from the other person’s perspective- or simply from another perspective- I can mitigate my disappointment-anger-frustration, to minimum, and sometimes- (has happened)- even end up laughing at the whole thing .

Traveling to Guatemala last month, I decided to book all my flights with KLM, a trust-worthy and reliable company, that had the best mixture of :minimum travel time- best price- yet reliable company .

The flights to Guatemala were set in perfect order and timeline: 3 flights with a 1.5-2 hour wait between each flight -just long enough to make sure a slight delay won’t leave you at the next airport and short enough to let you get to your destination in reasonable time. ( by the way many travel companies advise not to book ongoing flights that are less than 2-3 hours from your previous flight, and some airports are so big and confusing- that you thank yourself for following this advice..)

But- the flights back home- from Guatemala- had a 10 hour layover in Amsterdam.

My first reaction was- “what??are they serious? I will be tired, anxious, homesick, unwashed, wearing the same clothes for over 24 hours and crunched up from the previous flights!”

But then I decided to let go of my fixations and try a different angle:

Why not change scenery and enjoy what Amsterdam has to offer? 10 hours is enough to leave the airport , get to the city and see some interesting things!

So I searched on line, and found out that the well-known Rijksmuseum has an interesting new exhibition featuring a talented photographer called stacii Samidin, who photographed many typical coffee shops -a place of refuge, culture and relaxation.exhibition open until january 20, 2019.(entrance fee 17.5 euros fod adults) .


(this picture is from the rijksmuseum site-wanted you to get a glimpse )

The rijks itself is a very interesting museum, and I spent about 3 hours wandering around and totally enjoying myself.

Then I went to get myself something to eat.

Amsterdam has many options for vegans, and this lovely place is a 7 min walk from the museums. cosy and inviting vegetarian &vegan soups&salads place. reasonable price I believe (I paid 5.60 € for this bowl of very filling tasty hot soup).

my sweet potato & peanuts & banana soup at “soup & zo” amsterdam- 81 baerlestraat street

*The easiest ( and frugal, of course) way to get to the museumplein (where the major museums are conveniently located very close to each other):

Step out of Schiphol, turn right, and you will see many bus stops. look for platform B 15-19, (bus 397 to the museums), and apparently right there next to the relevant bus stop (B17) there is a small red van- with a nice ticket vendor- you ask for a round trip to the city( museums), pay 10 euros -(please don’t throw your ticket- you will need it for the trip back) and wait maybe a minute or two- and the very convenient bus arrives…

It is a 30 min ride, and the stop is right on the threshold of the museums. now this is why I think taking this bus is better than taking the train.

While I love the idea of a 30 min walk from the train station to the museums, some days are rainy and cold for a 30 min walk, and sometimes you don’t have the extra time for the walk. (and sometimes you are simply not up for a walk).


But what about my luggage???

How can you wander around with all your stuff ? well you don’t have to.

I paid 6 € and left my now 10 kilos duffel at the baggage storage at schiphol, and enjoyed my luggage free 6 hours in Amsterdam .


The baggage storage is located at the bottom floor -go to the Information booth between arrivals 1 and arrivals 2- and in front of you -there is a staircase. go down and see the very organized baggage storage. just don’t lose your ticket- this is how you claim your baggage back- take a photo of it just in case. (as you can see I follow my own advice as a way to promote my advice).

I returned to the airport tired but very pleased with the unexpected gift I gave myself- a totally different culture from the one I just had the pleasure of visiting, which made it super fun to visit especially on this connecting flight!

People- life has many surprises up our allies. it’s up to us to either reject them- and get upset and angry -or embrace the unexpected change of plans- maybe you’ll end up getting a great day!

*Ok -I simply couldn’t let you all leave without sharing my version of that super tasty soup I ate at “soup &zo” in Amsterdam.

I have no idea if my version is the way they prepare this soup at the restaurant- but it turned out great and easy to make- so go ahead and try it:

*4 sweet potatoes-peeled , diced and boiled till tender.

*400 ml coconut cream . or coconut milk. or soy milk.

*curry paste- to taste- I like it spicy- taste and decide -but the curry is a must!

*2 large onions -diced

*3 or more garlic cloves- the more the merrier

*4-6(or more- to taste) cups of vegetable stock /water -you can add some soy milk if you like

*100 gram bag of peanuts: I didn’t have peanuts, so I substituted for plain natural peanut butter (yes I did- and it turned out great!)

*3-4 ripe bananas! yessssss bananas

*coconut oil -a few tsp. or canola oil. or vegan butter.

*salt , pepper, fresh ginger, fresh turmeric- use your favourite condiments- add to taste

Start- like all soups start- with frying the onions +garlic+”opening” the curry in the few tsp of coconut oil .add the peanuts and immerse- then add the liquids( veggie stock and coconut cream). after a few minutes- add the boiled sweet potatoes and the rest of the condiments.

Blend everything together with a hand blender- (I have the brown hand blender and I love it- I blend soup while on the stove!).

let simmer -all the while tasting and correcting and blending with a wooden spoon.

when you are satisfied with the taste- give it that extra thing- with adding your smashed bananas. simmer for a few minutes more- and turn off the gas.

If the soup thickens too much while cooling down – add more liquid- water or soy milk if you wish. or vegetable stock.

This freezes really well- just label it or you will find yourself in front of the freezer wondering what that orange thing is.


enjoy and happy holidays!

the cooliflower.

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Reflecting on my 2018 expenses

The end of the year is in my opinion a great time to look back at your expenses and learn a thing or two (or three?) about your spendings.

*This is a part of a bigger picture– of course- reflecting on everything you accomplished in the past year- for better or for worse. the thing about finances is , apart from it being a super important tool to achieve goals (early retirement anyone?) , and a means to make a living, it is an important tool to achieve personal freedom: wise monetary conduct is key to feeling secure and confident in your decision-making process as a whole. maybe someday this will not be the situation but for the meantime it most definitely is..

#Back to my list: This post does not consist of my “regular every day spendings”- such as food, gas, electricity, phone, internet and health.this will be treated separately.

I must admit I was a bit surprised to see that I wasn’t as frugal as I thought I was, but I was also glad to see the changes I had made along the year, that made a difference. a difference in $$$- but more importantly- in my state of mind.

I do not go to stores, and do not pay in cash, so tracking my expenses wasn’t difficult I checked my 2 on-line shopping places- Ebay and Amazon.

Some home items (such as glass containers, face creams – etc) were bought as part of my online supermarket shopping but I have no way of tracking these specific few items a year back- so they will be a part of my food expenses -and treated separately.

The first thing I did, was write down all of my 2018 expenses.

I looked at each and every purchase and asked myself: looking back -was it a necessary purchase? did you enjoy it? would you have bought it again?

The questions were not asked in an inquisitorial tone ( no tone at all, I asked myself those questions -not a sound was heard) but as a way of learning. sometimes we are sure the facts are known- but when checking-they are actually different-the number can’t lie- (although sometimes we wish they could).

I am glad to say that for the majority of the purchases the answer was “yes” for all 3 questions. 80% of my purchases were things I believe I needed, I believe they are a good purchase and I do not regret making them.

This alone was a good sign for me, since I believe that spending money on valuable things is not a faux pas- but simply a way to use that currency. that is, of course- if you are in a monetary situation that allows you to spend that money. if you are in debts or saving towards a goal -then the situation is different .

*I divided my expenses into categories and summed up the total yearly spending on that category:
Apparel:56$ total
15$ =2 white thai yoga pants I just ordered- planning on joining a yoga course and the white apparel is a requirement i cannot avoid. otherwise I wouldn’t have bought the pants-I have enough sporting apparel and see no need to purchase something new just to get my workouts going.although I admit it is super fun to get new apparel…
20$- new slippers. my old ones wore down.
20$- new swim suit. after exactly a year of weekly use- my previous swim suit was becoming transparent. (here is a bit more about my swimming- and why you should consider getting a water-resistant mp3- How Metallica stepped up my game at the pool this morning ).
1$- shoelace buckles a pack of 10. This small thing helped a family member of mine go back to walking in the park after surgery. my family member claimed that “even tying my shoelaces is a big thing for me now so don’t expect me to go out to the park for a walk!”.surely you understand that I immediately ordered those buckles -and that claim was no longer heard.
Garden supplies: 151$ total
20$ -garden spray– made my own insect repellent and sprayed infected plants.
20$ -seeds:
50$ -planting bags (on Amazon- the photo is from their site- so you can be impressed like I was.)


heating mat for propagating seeds- 20$
seed propagation cells- 4$
25$- planting soil and soil nutrients
12$ propagating light bulbs

Home supplies+miscellaneous:
sheet- 15$-super comfi- love it!
dish washing gloves- 10$-about 4 pairs throughout the year. buying them on ebay was half the price than buying in my online supermarket so.
razor blades- 10$
Labeling stickers+zip lock bags+binder clips+correcting pen+pens+pepper grinder+metal straws+hydrogen peroxide+50 envelopes and 100 greeting cards for diy presents+car wax: 86 $.

(yes I learned how to wax my car -watching a youtube video). (yes I did watch that horrible youtube clip about the sea turtle getting strangled by the plastic straw- stopped immediately using plastic straws).

yes I did draw this beauty of a cactus myself. michelangelo- beware!

vanilla beans- 30$
Beauty products:

French green clay– for facial masks-10$


*Foundation +primer: 168$.

Ok. now- almost 75% of these weren’t even opened– I stopped using makeup (read here why and how- Why (and how) I stopped wearing any makeup-and a frugal tip!). I gave away all of my unopened makeup- so looking back buying in bulk wasn’t such a brilliant idea- but then again- I am glad I reached the level of self-confidence that allowed me to let go of all the make up I was using -so looking back- I am proud of myself and ***k the money!

*Body lotion– 20$- not a good purchase- bought a dominant smelling lotion on-line- not going to do this again!
Travel stuff:
Duffel travel bag: 20$ (great buy! spent a month traveling with it – read here why and how I did it How to “travelight” :a month in Guatemala with only a standard carry-on duffel bag??and this is how it looks after that month!)


5 travel size jars: 4$- great buy!


Quick dry towel- 4$- took it to Guatemala and have been using it weekly when going to the pool.

*Full disclosure- I just bought a new pan last week on Amazon because my non-stick pan is scratched and the top layer is revealing the under layer. it wasn’t even shipped yet so I was thinking maybe I will slide this to 2019 expenses? I know this is cheating.. so anyway- I researched on-line and the Calphalon pan received the best reviews for its price. since I pay a big amount for shipping- ( yes I am aware this sounds like an excuse for buying more stuff)- I added 2 things (that have been waiting a long time on my list-here is my answer to the lame excuse accusation ) : a pizza pan (baker’s advantage- if anyone is really interested mind you I get nothing from amazon or anyone else plus I haven’t even received the pan yet so) . and a pack of 3 bamboo cutting boards.

photo of the pan-from the amazon site

Why was this on my list?simply because my partner and my youngest are avid pizza guys, and order pizza at least twice a month if not more. I am a very competitive person and I have strong faith in my cooking abilities ( yes! self-confidence is so important!) and I have been contemplating making a pizza better than the ordered one- to save money and save on the preservatives and additives.

I loved the holes -the balance between crust and topping is a never ending challenge in home made pizzas!the photo is again from the amazon site

About that pack of 3 bamboo cutting boards. why 3? 1 for veggies and fruit, 1 for meat-I remind you I am the only vegan in my household…….and the last one -the smallest one- for baby bear. no- for onions and garlic and other spicy food -so I don’t find myself eating a garlic tasting apple or an onion tasting banana…..

these are the cutting boards I ordered on amazon- the photo is from their site. they are called “utopia kitchen bamboo cutting board”

This morning I remembered I made a big purchase not on either sites, and this is a new soda maker-cold water filter- boiling water boiler thing.


I did a lot of research before buying this, and the decision took me 2 weeks- but I am very glad I made the purchase.

I am a huge believer in drinking as much water as possible (read here why- and how: How I encourage myself to drink more water -and it has nothing to do with any apps! and I convinced myself that we need to drink mostly filtered clean water. we drink a lot of water- ice-cold water, herbal tea using ginger and herbs from our garden, and soda water. I also use boiling water for cooking. my experience with electric kettles involving the very harsh water we have here- wasn’t a success. we had to throw away a kettle every 4 months- a huge expense -not to talk about the pollution..

And yet- I hesitated.

This thing cost 1200$ , a huge amount of money, and I needed to think this purchase over and over again- before iI decided it was the frugal decision to make under the given circumstances.

The circumstances being:

1. we drink a lot of water-and need a water filter. i will not buy bottled water!!!

2. we drink a lot of tea- and need a new kettle every few months.

3. we drink a lot of soda water- so need a soda maker. again- I shall not buy bottled soda!

4. I will not buy another device like this every year-it is very expensive so this will have to last for a few years.

The one I got, has a 4 years full guarantee, the device itself is recyclable, the co2 refill bottles are recyclable too, and in my tiny kitchen- the possibility of gathering 3 deviced into one- well it was a plus. adding the costs of each separate device – after reading many reviews on the companies that sell these products- I decided that for our specific needs- this was a good and frugal device- overall.

So far we have been enjoying this device -and using it multiple times a day, every day, and this is a good sign I think.

You can spend a small amount on many gadgets you end up using maybe once or twice a year- maybe even less- and if you sum the amount of money you spent all of these devices and divide it by the number of times you used them- then compare the result to a device that cost you a lot of money but you don’t stop using and enjoying -well. I think it’s clear which device will turn out to be more frugal and minimalistic.

Think maybe you will make a full list like this too? I can tell you it has been a very interesting list to make, I learned a lot about my decision making process this year, and as a direct result I have many new-year’s resolutions now.

enjoy- the cooliflower.


How to “travelight” :a month in Guatemala with only a standard carry-on duffel bag??

Yes! finally! a post on how to minimise and frugalise your next long trip abroad!

After spending a month in Guatemala voluntouring, I feel like a total pro on the subject of light traveling- or travelighting”.

*I am sure many have other- perhaps more exciting tips- I promise to put my ego aside for a moment and I will gladly share for the benefit of the universe-so don’t hold back-comment.

But first- why travelight ?

Surely the airplane can carry my suitcases and the cab will get me anywhere- why skimp on clothes? Why narrow my options as to toiletries? Why do you need to turn a fun vacation into a working process??

Ok –no need to get worked up about this- like everything else in life- feel free to do whatever you want.

Want to carry your whole house with you so as not to leave your comfort zone not even for a moment? Enjoy yourself.

Want to waste precious time waiting for your suitcases +pay extra with many companies+ carry heavy suitcases around crowded airports? Great idea.

But- if you wish to learn some tricks on how to manage a whole month abroad with only a standard carry-on- than continue reading.

#1: Get a good travel bag.

This bag is going to carry all of your assets for a few weeks- and might sometimes happen to become overcrowded…(mm it might have happened that I forgot I had a space limit and purchased one too many gifts…).

Here is my duffel bag- did a great job

*Now as to the old debate –duffel or rucksack- well I think it depends on the nature of the trip.

If you are planning a hike or camping –during all- or most of the trip- well than there isn’t really a question, right? The dilemma starts when most of your trip is staying in one place- but- you are planning a hike or 2 –something around 2-3 day hike max.

Well this is a dilemma –and I think the hike component will win this time, since there is no way you will be able to carry both bags, and no way you can go camping or hiking with a duffel or a trolley.

*If most of your trips are like this case, I think it is better to consider getting a front load rucksack that complies with standard airline carry on regulations (55*35*25 cm/ 21*15*9 inches).

*I searched on line and I think the bag that meets most of the criterias is the Osprey farpoint 40.I don’t own one yet since neither Osprey nor Amazon ship to where I live but I am not losing hope thet 2019 will be the year for me to meet the osprey.

This picture is from their site.

Again- I get nothing from any company-I simply read several reviews online, and this review made a very good impression on me- but as usual-judge for yourselves.

This guy has great advice on many other issues concerning traveling light so just read and learn.

the link: great article from “the carry-on guy “

2.packing cubes!

These are my packing cubes- got them on ebay a few years ago- still doing a great job. I get nothing from this company-they met my basic criterias – good reviews – good price- so I bought them. turned out they are heavy duty material too!

Yes these are life savers-and cost only a few $ online. Not only do they save (a lot of ) space, but they also keep the clothes from getting wrinkled–and keeps your duffel in order so you can find anything you need in seconds.

Divide your clothes to sections –according to the cube size, and roll like a pro!

I admit I love those cubes so much I even bothered to roll my dirty laundry into them on the trip back. (Yes of course I washed the cubes afterwards- are you serious? It washes so easily and dries in a few minutes)

The reason I bothered repacking my dirty laundry was simple. I tried throwing it to a laundry bag-it wouldn’t fit into my duffel…the only way I could get every thing- including the gifts I bought- into the duffel- was if I rolled my used clothes neatly back to the pack.


3. Tsa fluids zipper bag: the 3-1-1 rule.

1: person.

1: bag-1 liter size- use a zip lock back- it gives a few inches more –you will need them.

3: 3.4 ounces (100 ml) size container of fluid

*Fluid, by the way- is not only shampoo or night creams, but also toothpaste and lipstick.

I used 5 small containers, which I divided like so:

1. Night cream

2. Natural toothpaste

3. Natural deodorant

4. Facial soap

5. Body lotion

6. I even added a tiny facial mask container- well it was a month-long trip and I enjoyed pampering my face every few days there…


I also managed to include my day cream-50 Spf sun screen: this double duty enabled me to close the zipper in my zip lock bag and have everything I needed-now that I stopped wearing makeup.

4.Mix and match + quick dry –easy wash clothes only!

All my clothes were easy hand wash and dry on their own in the room while I am at school with the kids. and all of them were basic mix and match solid colors. this meant that no matter what- I had something to wear.

I took my clothes to a close by laundry twice during my 1 month stay- a week after arriving- couldn’t take off that “sitting 24 hours in an airplane ” kind of smell, and the other time after the 2 day Acatenango hike- to take off the “camp fire at 1 am watching a volcano errupt” smell.

My clothes came back shining and smelling great all for 10$.

Between those 2 times, I simply washed my clothes in the sink, with a simple bar of local soap I bought in “la bodegona”.


If you are wondering why I didn’t buy or bring proper laundry soap- I don’t like hand washing my clothes with powder laundry detergent- It doesn’t dissolve well in cold water -and the Tsa rules about liquid prevented me from bringing my laundry shampoo. at the supermarket I saw no reason to buty a special soap when I liked the smell of this washing soap + I used the other bars in the pack for washing- once my Dr bronner’s soap bar vanished.

5. Bring a refillable water bottle!

Think environmentalism+saves a lot of money !

Now about this Tsa liquid rule at the airport…..

I cannot board a flight -or go anywhere outside my house for that matter- without my water bottle.

But airport regulations make it very difficult to board a plane with more than 100 ml in your bottle.

So- what I found out is that many airports have water coolers after security checks, and those who don’t- well check out if you can fill your bottle from the water tap in the toilets.yes I just wrote toilets.

I did that in schiphol- Amsterdam (great water! cold and tasty!) in Ben-Gurion air-port in Tel Aviv and in Panama , and I am sure many other airports , once you inquire- have that option.please make sure the water is clean and clear for safe use beforehand.even if you are thirsty.no joke here.

6. Orientation at your destination- includes a must trip to the local supermarket.

First of all- this is an interesting place to see local people and local customs. can’t help it- people all around the globe like to eat.

Second- you can try new and different food- in a safe environment. If you are a bit hesitant of trying out street food food, (I am), than the local supermarket can provide you a glimpse at local food and produce without many of the hazards.

Thirdly-this is your oppurtunity to stack on fruit and snacks for just in case situations- and provide food options for situations you feel like staying in and having a light meal.(Introvert anyone?)

7. Walk -walk-walk!

Instead of using taxis- try to get the real feel of the new place you arrived at- and walk around. try going out without your phone-shocking yet possible!

Antigua- by foot!

8. Make a copy of your VIP (very important papers)

put it in your travel bag. and save it in your Gmail account. a copy of your passport, your travel insurance, your E ticket’ your stay voucher, you get the drift.

Enjoy your holiday! the cooliflower.


Vegan and frugal in Guatemala-my month in antigua (and a side note on traveling alone).נ

As I already told you, I volunteered for a month with NDG -in antigua, guatemala. here is a link to my previous post – Volunteering with Ninos De Guatemala -the whole truth. 

During my stay, I was provided with 3 meals a day at my homestay, except on sundays, so basically I needed to provide for myself only on the 4 sundays I spent in antigua. 

But- being a health enthusiastic vegan, I realized quickly that my homestay-although being super nice and cooperative, were used to serving meat and dairy , and I would have to eat the “sides”. 

Well I am not a “sides” person. I love food. I love to eat.  food is a super important aspect of our lives, and I prepare my meals with a lot of thinking put into the nutritious aspects as well as respecting my tastebuds. 

Where there is a will- there’s a way- I refuse to believe it is difficult to eat healthy vegan food on a budget even when you are out of your comfort home and kitchen, in a foreign and non-vegan enthusiastic country. (non enthusiastic is an understatement- many  dishes consisted of meat or dairy products and the rest were gluten abundant- and I try to avoid gluten if I can. 


Guatemala has great pineapples, bananas, papayas, apples and melons, and this plate was my breakfast every day for a month. 

simply wonderful.

But- at around 10 am- I began to feel hungry again-enter snacks from the antiguan supermarket-la bodegona.

my vegan snacks- 3 bags of almonds, bananas, raisins, prunes, mixed nuts, coffee. total sum- 10$. 

 For lunch – again- la bodegona saved my  a** , I bought 3 packs of red beans, a pack of lentils and a pack of chickpeas, and simply brought it (along with a generous tip) to the lady in charge of cooking in the homestay , and politely asked her to prepare them for me as almuersos (lunch in spanish) from now on.

yay ! lentils! 

On sundays- the first two sundays I was away climbing the pacaya volcano and the acatenango volcano -so I ate my snacks.

on the third and fourth sundays- well…

 I searched on line, and I did find a few places that got good reviews- one called “la bruja”, which is supposed to have great vegan burgers, and the other called “Samsara”, and I swear I started walking towards “Samsara”, but suddenly I realized I walked too far and I am near the lovely “la bodegona” supermarket….

So I got in and decided to have a picnic lunch in my room. 


tortillas, avocado, bean spread, tomatoes, cherry tomatoes, garlic salt, organic apples, grapes.

This is my picnic spread- i spread avocado and bean spread on my tortillas, added tomatoes and sprinkled some garlic salt- and had myself a tasty borrito -like roll. for dessert I ate some grapes. I was left with apples, tomatoes and grapes for the next 3-4 days, and all for 100 Q- about 12 $, the cost of one lunch. 

I realized I didn’t “accidentally find myself near the supermarket”. 

I already told you I am an introvert, and all the while I was searching the web for a good vegan place to eat, I was concerned about sitting in a restaurant on a sunday lunch in a foreign place, and eating .alone

I’m not much of a restaurant person on regular terms, let alone on these terms….

I think I felt so uneasy, I subconsciously led myself to the supermarket, where another option- a great option- was open for me. 

I don’t mind eating alone in my house-office.

I actually prefer it. I love food, I appreciate tastes, textures, colors, visuality, everything that has to do with food. I love eating. I don’t read or watch anything while eating, and prefer to eat alone and fully soak in the complete pleasure to all senses that food brings about. 

What I was concerned about was sitting with no filters- such as a friend or family member-  in a restaurant full of strangers- all sitting with their families or friends. 

I am fully aware this could have been a great experience , but again- since I prefer not to eat out even when I am not abroad, the awkward feeling was intensified. 

This picnic was such a success that I repeated it on my last sunday there.

This is a good opportunity to discuss traveling alone.

I have been traveling alone for a few years now, and I love it. 

I know many people prefer traveling with someone- be it spouse-other family member- friend- group. 

traveling alone is a whole different concept.

When traveling alone- all decision- for better or for worse- are yours- and yours alone. 

You need to take care of everything , deal with every mishap , eat your meals alone- unless you hook up with people along the way- and have only yourself (and Instagram, of course) to share your adventures with.

This means- you have total freedom, and this freedom- can be frightening. 

*I will most definitely not be the first to acknowledge that freedom is a frightening concept. I strongly recommend this book- a classic in my opinion.here is a link- erich fromm escape from freedom ( please try to get this at your local library first- read and then decide if it is one of the “keepers” that need to belong in your home library).

Try traveling alone once- maybe a short trip, maybe not abroad , but try to plan your trip-and execute it- all by yourself. maybe you will make mistakes, maybe not everything will work like a swiss clock- and maybe it doesn’t really matter- because that sense of doing it on your own is intoxicating. 

In my experience- locals are much nicer to you when traveling alone, you are more likely to meet new people, enjoy museums (think about going to a contemporary art museum with a spouse that doesn’t appreciate art. what a  disaster. think about the reverse situation -a disaster nonetheless. when alone- you get to decide if and when you go anywhere, what and when you will eat, sleep, and see. awwww freedommmmmmmm). 

Give it a try. 

So- if you are a vegan -frugal -introvert like me- I hope I gave you some ideas in this post. even if you fall into only one of these categories- or none of them- I hope you enjoyed reading.

It is possible to travel and enjoy healthy nutritious vegan food- in a frugal way! 

the cooliflower. 

Continue reading “Vegan and frugal in Guatemala-my month in antigua (and a side note on traveling alone).נ”


Volunteering with Ninos De Guatemala -the whole truth.

I am a skeptic.

I do not take anything anyone tells me for granted, I always check- and double check every fact.

When I decided to travel to Guatemala and volunteer with NDG -Ninos De Guatemala- I was skeptic too- and after spending almost a month in Antigua-Guatemala- volunteering and touring (AKA voluntouring), I can give you my own private  skeptical point of view on volunteering with NDG  .


First- why volunteer? why not just fly to central america and hike-sight see- enjoy good hotels and sit in coffee shops ? enjoy a proper vacation- I mean -If you are spending time and money and the flights aren’t short either- you should enjoy yourself, right?

I agree- you should enjoy yourself. 

The question is- are you happy with the usual way you travel , or are you looking for something else. I dare say- more meaningful than the usual way I used to travel abroad: shopping-museums- sightseeing- hotels- restaurants. 

And please don’t get me wrong- there is nothing wrong with relaxing, having a good time, sight-seeing and museum strolling. actually you can add hiking and other self-enriching experiences to this list.

I am definitely not giving up on these kind of  experiences . 

This post has 2 purposes as I see it: the first is to suggest another way of traveling- after you have read all about the lessons I’ve learned from my month in Guatemala, and the second purpose is to give you my full and true opinion about this specific NGO- should you consider voluntouring in Guatemala .

I want to start by stating a few obvious and yet perhaps overlooked notions: 

  1. voluntouring in my opinion is as selfish as every other trip. the fact that I decided to dedicate the money (and time) I would have otherwise spent on fancy hotels-a thrilling hike or other adventure-interesting meals -fancy museums-to an organization focused on helping others-  is definitely very nice of me- but I still believe that if I level with myself   I will  agree that the giver- in this case me- profited from giving just as much as the recipient of the gift, maybe even more. many studies show that volunteering fills you with good energy, a sense of accomplishment, and overall happiness. 


this is Victoria. I mean- isn’t it obvious that playing with her is a gift to myself?

2. Be humble . you will not change the world-cure hunger- or cure anything else for that matter- in the few days-few weeks-few months you will volunteer. 

Maybe if you were a millionaire and were to give millions of $ to charity -you would make a significant difference. but most of us aren’t, and I believe it is important to be realistic about your true ability to impact other people’s lives, otherwise you might end up thinking you wasted your time &money, only because the change isn’t visible.

3.The extent of your sense of accomplishment and making a true difference is totally up to you.

I started volunteering not knowing any Spanish. well maybe  basic level acquired on “duolingo”- which is a good app -but when you need to speak to locals -you find out it’s a bit more complicated than writing your answer in an app….

So basically I didn’t understand a word the kids- or the teacher- said. 

This led to very funny situations involving a lot of hands, drawings, running around and misunderstandings.

For a very verbal person like me- this was a revelation. 

I ended up helping the teacher (wonderful vanessa- I hope all teachers were like her- such patience, quiet handling of the class that consisted of 20 very energetic young kids …I was privileged to help her!) cut cards, glue paper, wrap yarn, draw, help the kids with lunch, clean the class, watch over their free play , participate in soccer games , brush their teeth, and basically- just sit down and hug whoever was in a need of a hug at that moment.

And after the first day- when the kids got used to me- they took turns sitting on my laps- all the kids by the way- even the most shy ones- felt at ease with me after a few days- and whenever one of them was feeling a bit down or lonely or sad- he was immediately hugged and comforted, without many words involved.

So I didn’t end up thinking I saved the world from hunger , and I didn’t find a cure for cancer, nor did I save anything else.

Maybe, just maybe- a few kids had a better time in summer school because of me- and maybe- I was the only one that had a great time. 

I don’t know. 

I do know that volunteering for a few weeks and expecting to make a true difference- is something that may prevent the absolute and true joy of simply being there for someone else, maybe comforting one person, maybe helping one stray dog and maybe help a senior citizen clean his house or get a blanket.  maybe just being with someone  and sharing your good vibes with them is enough as a goal. 

*by the way- in the afternoons I learned spanish with a great teacher named Alvaro in the Cambio spanish school. the income from cambio is donated to Ndg too. if you happen to go there do yourself a favour and ask specifically for him. and say hi from me. alvaro and I had some serious conversations about life, family, anger management, money, goal setting and veganism. (mostly) in spanish. 

4. The co-coordinators at the office of NDG are truly wonderful -and I received a full explanation as to where the donation money was going.

I felt secure and safe in Antigua, my personal coordinator carlota was constantly in contact with me, showed me around, explained what needed explaining , took us to the jade museum, a cooking class and a chicken bus factory tour, and even offered me her personal gear when I told her I was going to climb the Acatenango! 

The donation money -and this was definitely a question raised about some other organizations- was definitely not going to anyone besides the kids in the schools- the office is a small place, no one has a car- except for one- and it is an old truck used to drive to the schools and back.on the same note- please do not have any expectations to live in a hotel or anything like that. my homestay room was basic and simple, it was clean and the food was good -but again- basic. nothing fancy. I wasn’t expecting fancy and I liked my home stay . this is the room and the view from it: 

mi dormitorio
the jungle outside my room . spent a few days reading in the sun here

Here is a link to the  NDG site- take a lookNinos De Guatemala

I think it is clear that providing proper  education for kids who otherwise might wonder the streets or work in the fields- is the most efficient way to make a true and real impact. 

This NGO has its heart and actions in the right place. 

This was a truly wonderful experience for me. 

It might be for you too- but please remember to be humble and realistic about this. 

the cooliflower. 

Continue reading “Volunteering with Ninos De Guatemala -the whole truth.”


Hiking the acatenango volcano in guatemala- usefull tips for beginners


A year before I turned 50, I read somewhere that a good way to find out what your true dreams are- is to sit in front of a paper- and instinctively draw the first thing that comes to your mind- when thinking about things you wish to achieve.

so I sat down one day, and drew the first thing that came up when thinking of turning 50.

It was a (lame) drawing of a person with a backpack, standing on a hill top.

Then I remembered I made a list a few years ago, named :”things I want to achieve before turning 50″.

I found that list (yes- it is very helpful to be organized and constantly strive towards minimalism), and on that list, sure enough, was a paragraph stating :”take a trip outside of my comfort zone”.

It also said- “learn spanish”, “learn italian”,”learn how to play the guitar ” and “learn how to professionally cook vegan food”.(still working on those..)

This was the beginning of my journey towards the third and final gift I gave myself for my 50th birthday. (here is a link to the previous posts telling all about the first 2 presents I gave myself-and why I decided that giving myself those birthday presents was such a great idea: The birthday presents I gave myself-part 1, The second birthday present I gave myself. (part 2) ).

So I contacted “Ninos De Guatemala”, a non government organization (NGO) in guatemala , and booked tickets through Klm , started learning spanish with Duolingo , and learned all I could online about travelling light.

But this post is about hiking tips for beginners like me, and I believe that a true and genuine beginner has the best tips- since we know exactly what a fellow beginner feels and what are the obstacles to handle-and how to tackle them .

The picture above- the one that looks like a post card- is a picture I took of the Fuego volcano in guatemala. an active volcano, rising to more than 4000 meters high. (very high).

I can tell you that I was very nervous before the 2 day hike (actually- this is an understatement), and that it didn’t help that on the group meeting the evening before the hike, I found out that 95% of the group were around their 20’s, fit , ambitious, and had lots of prior experience hiking in high altitude…….

But- at the end of the hike I felt as if I conquered the world, and since that point on- I couldn’t care less about other people’s fitness level -or youth.

I found out that all my swimming-running-yoga was a great way to be in shape, not only did I keep up with the rest of the group, but I decided strategically that I have to be as close to the guide in the front as possible- in case I get altitude sickness .

I was third or fourth from the guide the whole time, which turned out to be a great decision- I had much more rest time than the people who were the last in line-think about it- at every stop the guide would wait untill the last person arrived, and a minute or 2 later- we started climbing again. the poor person in the back had almost no rest time, whereas I had plenty of time to drink water, eat a small snack, and enjoy the hike.

Now for the promised “Do’s and don’ts”:

* I may be stating the obvious here- but this is as I said a demanding hike. please make sure you are fit enough and in good health to do it! consult with proffesionals- I am not one- just giving some advice here. use your brain when deciding if this adventure is for you or not.

*I believe a good trial hike for you would be the pacaya volcano hike.a pleasant half day hike that doesn’t involve arranging any gear or carrying a heavy backpack. water and some snacks will be enough. the pacaya is considerably easier than the acatenango (our guide said that the acatenanago is considered 6 times more difficult than the pacaya) so if you find that pacaya is too much for you- don’t even think about acatenango….. still-even if pacaya is easy for you- the acatenango may be a difficult challenge so -use your brain.


1. hike with a good tour company.

This is quite a difficult hike, in high altitudes (summit almost 4000 meters), it gets very cold at night up there (can reach 0 degrees celsius) and you need good gear and a good guide to handle this.

I needed almost everything- from a sleeping bag-sleeping mat- to backpack-overcoat-gloves- flashlight- hat.

the difference between going with the company I went with -that rent me all the gear for free, and other companies that charge for renting the gear, was at first- double the amount , but after calculating the rent cost- there was almost no difference in price- so take the gear situation into consideration when deciding which company to use.

Under no circumstances should you try to do this hike alone- defenitely if you are a beginner. this is my opinion- and I am not receiving a commission from any guides so please consider it a fair warning.

Last year 6 hikers were found dead after loosing their way up on the mountain in the freezing cold night.

2. Pack lightly.

pack only bare necessities.

this means water– I had 4.5 liters and drank another liter at my homestay in the morning, and another liter once we came back.

snacks– nuts, raisins, bananas, apples, that is what I had and it was great.


a small-sized facial cream with high spf, the smallest and lightest face towel with a few drops of soap already on it- so you can just put a few drops of water and scrub your face and upper body in the evening .in my experience- this is a necessity: the hike is mostly in volcanic ashes that sticks to your face and clogs your pores. do yourself a favour and scrub your face with a towel and a few drops of water.

3.Hydrate properly the day before:

A tip I got from the tour agency I hiked with- to prevent altitude sickness it is very important to hydrate throughout the hike- but equally important is to hydrate properly on the day prior to the hike! * I know many long distance runners know that fueling and hydrating the days before the race is sometimes even more important than race day itself.

4. dont forget to rent a walking stick from the cute kids at the starting point.

The sticks are only 5Q and you won’t regret taking one…it was helpful both on the slippery way up- and on the even more slippery- way down….

5. clip your toenails.

I am trying to remember where I read this tip- but it’s a good one. going down the second day you happen to spend quite a lot of time on your toes- that’s what the elevation does to you. you won’t regret this one either…

6 .take a flashlight and spare batteries.the climb up the summit is done at 4 in the morning, pitch dark.no kidding. The flash light the company gave me suddenly stopped working and this hike in the dark was one of the scariest Things I have ever done.

just take a flash light.preferably a head lamp like this one above. You can thank me later.

Don’t do:

1.Don’t spend your whole hike taking pictures. I don’t think any of your friends- not even your family would appreciate looking at 50,000 pictures of the same volcano -even if it was taken from slightly different angles…try to enjoy the beautiful jungle you are in- and this unique experience of watching a volcano erupt in front of you every 15 minutes…



2. don’t schedule anything exhausting for that evening or even the day (or two..) after. I was exhausted for a few days after the hike- but felt exhilarated!

enjoy- this was a hike of a life time for me. the cooliflower.

Are potatoes good for you??? +great baked potatoes tip!

Who doesn’t like potatoes??

they can be boiled, pureed, baked, fried, french fried, cut into Mc Donald’s chips, and more.

And yet-

I kind of stopped buying and making them, thinking they are basically starchy-no fiber- high in carbohydrates only- no vitamins food.

But then…

My son got me researching protein-packed food, so I learned some pretty amazing stuff.

  • need I really remind you again that I am an early retired criminal lawyer, not a health certified anything, just a health and nutrition enthusiast, that has now plenty of free time and some strong will to learn as much as I can about healthy nutritious food-plus I am a super generous human being who shares whatever I find with you.

Oh- and The thing is- I believe fancy expensive super complicated food is for rich fancy people, not for me.
95% of my food staples are bought through my online supermarket, using all kinds of coupons, I never eat out or order in, and I do my very best to cook as much as I can from scratch and simplify the process while at it.
*I strongly believe that if more people knew how to prepare simple nutritious meals at home- then they would understand how beneficial the vegan diet is- since it checks on all requirements: healthy, nutritious, basic, simple, tasty, and even super frugal!!

Back to the potatoes.

So apparently there are contradicting opinions online as to the health and nutrition benefits of these beautiful easy to make frugal household staples.

The facts:

Here is a link that sums up the important and FAQ: potato info

And to make it extra clear:

the pros:

A baked potato is quite filling and supplies you with 3 grams of protein ( nice amount), and quite a lot of potassium and vitamin C. the total calories from 1 baked potato- 110, is definitely not high, especially for the value you get.

The frugal point is not forgotten- potatoes are a cheap staple and -if stored in a dark -relatively cool place, can keep for at least a few weeks, though please don’t make my mistake -if your house starts smelling like there is a problem with your gas stove- go check your potato stack.

one rotten potato can really deprive you of the joy of life.

the cons:

the nutrition facts are valid for a baked potato. “naked”.

meaning- not slathered in butter-cheese- whatever, not fried in deep oil or pureed Joel Robuchon style.

Watch here if you are interested in what that means.

Robuchon mashed potatoes

If you are very anxious to know and can’t wait to watch the clip- it basically means putting a lot of butter to join the potatoes.

this makes a super tasty puree but the nutrition facts alter. a bit.

Also- if you are watching your carbohydrate intake- the potato is rich in carbs, 26 grams, so do your math and decide if you are in or out.

If you are in- here is my pro tip for cutting at least half of the added olive oil needed to prepare nicely baked potatoes-

like these:




these sweet potatoes weren’t prepared using the pro tip, because the tip is difficult to apply on sweet potatoes, and the result was double the amount of olive oil. yet super tasty baked potatoes. ( you will be surprised to hear that actually sweet potatoes contain less protein than regular white potatoes. (only 2 grams for 1 serving).

So what is the pro tip? I can’t stand the suspense!

The tip is to first boil the potatoes until they are quite soft- though not totally soft- definitely not breaking apart(!!) and then transfer them to a baking tray- drizzle a little oil and coarse salt , perhaps rosemary if you got some- and bake for 20 minutes- while the oven is working anyway. (frugal. told you). by the way, don’t peel them. quite a lot of the fiber and vitamins are in the potato skin, so why bother?

first, boil, then bake

This way- the potatoes turn out crispy yet tender, yummy yet healthy, nutritious yet fast to make.


Enjoy- the cooliflower.

A bot hurt my feelings…

So I was minding my own business a few days ago, when suddenly I saw a “new comment” signal.

I checked it out, since I love reading readers comments, they inspire me and often allow me to look at issues from a different angle.

Then I saw it.

The most ego massaging comment ever.

I was so complimented I began to be suspicious.

Well, that’s me.

After having spent more than 25 years as a lawyer, and a criminal lawyer – I smelled something very fishy.

So I texted my daughter, the smartest person ever,and asked for her opinion.

She told me boldly and plainly ” come on,mom, this is clearly a bot”.

An hour later WordPress acknowledged this was for sure spam mail and removed it to the spam bucket.

I am soooooo glad I was suspicious enough not to approve this immediately…

Now the hugest compliment ever turned to the biggest insult out there…

Why would anybody do that to an innocent blogger like me?

I immediately wondered if more people got this kind of sh#$ stuff, and wondered if they always knew how to recognize those bots and steer clear from them.

Clearly, I am no expert on that, but what lit the red sign for me were 2 things:

1. It said, “my story really needed to be heard more.”

I don’t even have a “story” per se, so the suspicion arose.

2. The compliments were a little too dense so to speak …kind of like the famous scene in “pretty woman” after Julia Roberts complains to Richard Gere that the shop owners on rodeo drive snubbed her, and he accompanied her and gets the sales ladies to smother him with outrageous compliments until he points to Roberts and tells them to change the recipient of the compliments.this is really a fundamental scene that makes you smile at every fake compliment you hear.

But somewhere deep down, I was disappointed that the compliment wasn’t real.

Apparently, I am nowhere near letting go of my ego, although I meditate and try to be aware of my ego issues and the way they control me.

I wish I could be confident in what I do without the need for outside reassurance, but I am not there clearly, and this bot situation made it very clear…

But I am working on it.

Beware of evil bots and inflating egos and have a great day!

The cooliflower.

My 8 best simple +effective tips to stop procrastination!

I never procrastinate. anything.

Not because I am a better person or something- simply because procrastinating makes me very anxious.

I mean very anxious.

Like losing sleep kind of anxious.

So I developed full proof -easy-just listen -methods to help me overcome those known to everybody moments when you just can’t think of anything but your pillow and a good book.

And I will share my top-notch tips with you because, you know, that’s the kind person that I happen to be.

#1: Listen to Nike.


Just do it!

In my experience, the time I spend on hesitating whether or not I should postpone doing something I decided on doing- is equal to the time needed to finish doing the da** thing!!!

This happens every time- and frankly- at some point I could see how utterly stupid and time-wasting the whole “maybe in 10 minutes I won’t be as tired, maybe tomorrow I will have more free time, maybe next month I will have more money, maybe next year I will grow rabbit ears”, (etc) is.

Even little hesitations fall into this category:

Should I or shouldn’t I go back to the house to get a bottle of water? it’s a hot day on the one hand-

But then, on the other hand, it’s only a 10 minutes walk

But what if something prolongs this errand?

But what if I run late because of going back in?

But what if I get really thirsty and there’s no water there and everybody will run late anyway so I’ll regret not getting my water?

(clearly, this is a totally made-up conversation I didn’t have with myself. ever. wonder how I managed to make it sound so realistic though.)

You get the point.

Go get that bottle of water- no matter what will happen during your 10-minute walk afterward, I can assure you that you will suffer from a terrible thirst.

But don’t spend that time on weighing the pros and cons of going back.

Just do it.

You have doing the laundry on your to-do list?

Just go put the machine on. I mean it’s not like you need to wash your sheets in the river now.

#2: Don’t be shy- use kitchen hacks to help out!

Your kitchen sink is overcrowded with dishes? I mean nasty pots and pans with sticky sauce on them?

boil a pot of hot water, make pasta or brown rice for lunch, and pour the excess cooking boiling water into the sticky pans .add a little dish soap.., and start the scrubbing with the largest pans.

Now the hot water will dissolve the sticky sauce, and psychologically, once you get 2 large pans out of the way- it looks much more achievable to finish with the rest.

#3: “life would be a mistake without music”- Friedrich Nietzche

Music can lift you up, get you moving, and even get you dancing while washing the floor! yes, it can! I mean- the right music.

Put up the volume and put your gloves on. the to-do list will get done before you notice.

Cooking pasta or baking pizza? put on some Andrea Bocchely or Pavarotti on Spotify. it’s free. and it gets you in the right mood for tomato sauce and Carmela soprano.

Need to clean the sofas? put Sia on. or Deep purple.

#4: get into the proper outfit.

When I need to clean the house or get some heavy-duty work in the garden, I get into my “I don’t care what happens to these old rags anyway” outfit.

This is part of a mental game I play against my procrastinating alter ego.

If I get into those clothes, I get into the mindset of “oh what the ****, might as well get those clothes dirty !” -and then I’m on it.

on the other hand, when I wear my regular everyday apparel, there is always that:” I don’t want to get stains on this shirt, I really like it, I think I’ll postpone cleaning for another day” kind of thing.

And while you are on it- get your cleaning-working gloves on, same effect, promise.

#5: polish your math skills.

Some tasks are just too big.

It’s not anybody’s fault, they just are.

A dirty house, a sink full of dishes, 60 laps in the pool on your schedule for this morning at 5:45 Am, a big case at work, a dinner party you decided to host – this kind of too big.

What I learned at my mature age, after many years of trying to beat this challenge, is that if a task is too big- or even just appears to be too big- when in fact it is medium size at best- the chances of me starting it -let alone finishing it, are very, very slim.

On the other hand, small tasks are fun to cross off your to-do list, and let’s not forget they take up the same space on the list as heavy tasks do, so –

Back to 1st-grade math- divide every task to 4 equal parts.

Why 4? why not 3?

This is the method that works best for me- and I think it has something to do with the fact that dividing to 2 parts does not help with the “too big for me” scare, and 3 parts do not help achieve that psychological effect of “wow, I’ve finished more than half of this sh**! I’m close to finishing!”

now 5 parts are too many parts + you don’t get to enjoy that half done is almost done effect I mentioned a second ago.

I am aware this may take some adjusting- how do you divide washing the dishes into 4 parts? and cleaning the house?

But you are intelligent people, you can do it.

Plus the sink conquering method is a unique one- and was mentioned specifically on tip # 2. go check.

Getting through 2 mikes of running at 5 am is easy, whereas thinking of going for an 8-mile run is a whole different mental game to tackle.

so finish the first 2, then you warm up enough to get through the next 2, and then you tell yourself you are almost done- since most of it is over (yes, 50% is the most of 100% in case you didn’t know), and by the time you get to the last 2 miles- you start to regret that it’s over so soon. or not. anyway, its easier than 8 miles.

#6: Yep, can’t get away from the to-do list!

If you want to get anything done, you have to write it down on your to-do list, both because of the commitment you make when writing it down (like a mini contract you make with yourself), but mainly because it is so much fun to cross it off that list.

So write to-do lists on (recycled) paper if you are old school like me, or on your phone, or both (if -like me- you have a strange tendency to “forget” those tasks unless reminded time and again)-

but this is effective. and free, so.

#7: stop watching tv. I mean it.

I stopped watching television a few years ago, and I still manage not to get everything I wan’t done, so I have no idea how people manage watching tv + doing everything else.

And while you’re on it- limit your facebook+Instagram time too.

yes. I am ware how old I sound.

And yet- I don’t give a dam*.

#8: Polly wants a cracker

Ok, you might think this is stupid, but I don’t care because it is both stupid +highy effective so here you go.

Promise yourself a treat when you finish a massive task (divided into 4 parts -remember?).

But remember you must keep your promise- otherwise, you will develop a general disbelieve in yourself which is dangerous to your wellbeing, so prepare the treat ahead.

This way you get to both make sure the treat is there and no one will bail on you in the last moment, plus you get to enjoy the anticipating part, which many times is much better than the treat itself since our mind has this wonderful imagination that helps us get through this life .

What can be considered a treat?

a healthy snack




A much-needed rest



Whatever is considered fun for you- and I am keeping it clean here so.

I am sorry but the evil notion of “cheat meals” is not considered a legit treat in my opinion, because I could never understand the concept of this “cheating yourself “idea.

If you don’t learn to indulge yourself on healthy nutritious simple food as part of your legit everyday diet, and you get the feeling you are in any way restricted and need to “cheat” in order to remain sain and on track, then I’m not sure this is the way to go for you , because no one can live intentionally in his self made prison -for long, and everybody knows who crash diets are for. (the answer- for no one, ever).

Also, I am contemplating whether promising yourself to buy something you’ve been wanting to buy for some time, is a legit treat.

On the one hand- it is an effective tool, and if you are only buying something you have contemplated buying anyway, and not getting a “card Blanche” to a shopping feast with no limits, then this won’t undermine your minimalistic frugal strive,

On the other hand- the concept of buying something as a treat undermines the whole idea of disconnecting shopping from “want“, and concentrating only on what you truly need.

I would love to hear your opinion on this =please share your tip to avoid procrastination.

Remember- sharing is caring.

enjoy- the cooliflower.

How to manage Office politics: tips for introverts!

I’ve been a boss, and I’ve been a worker, for about 28 years.I think I can safely say I have some experience…I am also a class A introvert and have been an introvert all my life- naturally, including all my working life, yet have succeeded nonetheless to maintain my position and even climb up the management ladder. (not to the top- but fairly high -definitely considering my very poor social skills and my total lack of enthusiasm in that area).Here is more on being an introvert: why I get up at 04:005 reasons why being an introvert is actually beneficial -and a useful tip
I believe it’s high time I help my former fellow introvert workers get through that jungle called “workplace politics”. and wow what a jungle that is.

First I want to acknowledge the hassle of this all -for both extroverts- and introverts.

As if just getting up every morning and having no choice but going to work and thus spending ( some might say wasting?) 80% of your waking hours (and 120% of your conscious and clear-minded hours- assuming you have any of those ) commuting to and back from work- and being at work (some might say working but that’s not always accurate so).When you get to work, no matter where you work. how old you are, how much money you make, or how high in the company ladder you climbed- there is always that office politics background buzz.Because all people are the same. everywhere.Sad but true.There will always be competition between peers, envy, gossip, rumors, coalitions, packs, fake smiles and fake friendships.6th grade all over again.Now extroverts probably liked middle school and high school- I have no idea – just guessing here- since being surrounded all the time by a lot of other people and having to socialize constantly is not a big deal for them, on the contrary- they enjoy that from what I’ve read- but still- there is a difference I believe between highschool carefree years and having to find your way through office politics when trying to excel at your job .Now that I acknowledged your pain too- all you extroverts have no idea what a mess an introvert is in these situations and how clueless he or she feels when realizing that 6th grade hit them in the face once again.I hated high school, never felt at ease in social situations, never saw the right movies, never wore the right clothes, I was eccentric, to say the least from a very young age.My favorite hobby was going to the public library, I had very good grades and very large glasses, a cup A bra and afro curls when they weren’t popular.I think you get the picture.I tried everything possible to straighten my hair, nothing helped.The only thing I got from putting on so much hair cream was a bad case of acne as if life wasn’t smiling to me as it were.*In my experience there is a connection -my dermatologist told me that and as a fact since I stopped putting on a ton of hair cream and simply shaved my hair- my acne never came back. and no- I am no skin expert and just do whatever you want as always, your body- your choices.So what advice can an introvert like me give you on office politics?Not much, that’s true, yet it was enough to get ne through 28 years of hard labor and even land me a managenent position.But first, i think the obvious should be stated, and that is : no way you are going to get anywhere if you don’t do a good ,even a great,job.Sure, there are always those who navage to fet away with lousy work skills and exceptional social skills.I know some, may I dare say, more than a few.But these people are gifted with the skills an introvert doesn’t have, and therefore their situation is nothing to compare to.What anybody, including introverts(!) can do, is sweet talk , sugar coat, kiss up- to the boss.But- you need to be wise about it, otherwise you ebd up falling flat on your face.When you flatter your boss , you need to make sure he or she doesnt get the (wrong, of course)impression, that you are kissing up.Meaning: you need to be subtle, look them straight in the eyes to make a strong impression, never do it in connection to anything you need, and always add the necessary;”you know I never kiss up, but your action was simply remarkable/phenomenal/amazing/whatever.”You need to follow your announcement with action, meaning no way this boss catches you kissing up to anybody soon after you finished telling him how rare this occasion is.The most important thing to remember is that you need to save like a pro so you won’t have to slave like a dog for more then the necessary period of time before you retire.Now for a money saving tip:I got this trick online , and it saved me money and time so I am sharing.

My (nearly) 3 years of Shopping ban are over!

I didn’t shop for clothes, shoes or makeup since September 2016, except for 4 pairs of Thai yoga pants, and a pair of running shoes.

After the hand-clapping is over and done, I will tell you that this wasn’t a problem for me since I am an introvert and dislike going to malls and stores, and as for online shopping- well I simply didn’t need anything new, because I was dragging myself to work every day, wishing for the day to end, and had no desire to buy new things, on the contrary- I fully embraced my frugal tendencies as a means to reach early retirement in a fairly secure state.

I retired on March 2019, and gladly haven’t worn any of my fancy work clothes since.

I gave most of them away, and the rest are simply waiting quietly in the closet. they know their time will come too.

On the other hand, my workout apparel is gladly in very high demand- I workout 6-7 days a week, and half of my workouts days are spent in the gym, either swimming; running on the treadmill or going to classes.

My workout clothes are fine, served my purposes really well- running trails near home and doing yoga in my back yard.

But besides them being more than 5 years old, (I believe it’s quite mature for workout clothes), and the need to change 9 outfits a week- meaning more laundry -since I don’t own 9 outfits- the real deal – and I’m not hesitating to admit it, is that I now need to be a bit more representable as I go to classes and show myself in actual public with these clothes.

And by “representable” I mean not only in the eyes of other people working out in the gym but mainly in my own reflection – as there are surrounding mirrors -you can’t escape -you get to see yourself from every -single- angle.

Don’t get me wrong- I tend to think that if my workout apparel wasn’t that mature I probably wouldn’t have bought anything new, but the combination of all 3 valid (IMO) excuses- led to clicking Amazon.com.

The thing about new workout clothes that aren’t worn out from life and laundry and many hours of labor is that they fit you really well. at least at first.

I don’t mind sounding shallow as the dead sea, but suddenly I care about how I look, whereas up until my early retirement- I actually didn’t.

I mean how I look in my workout clothes- since basically, I show myself in public only in leggings and tops, and my Levi’s for riding the motorcycle.

I made a big deal of making sure my tops would mix and match with my leggings and sports bra, so I could wear any combination and get away with it if fashion police decide to pay my local gym a surprise visit.

I always make sure all my clothes are mix &match approved, or I don’t buy them.

I do not have a lot of clothes and I don’t appreciate being stuck with that miserable “I don’t have anything to wear “situation.


(that’s not me- this is the model in the amazon display)


And how can you workout without music?? no way.


I am enjoying each garment and device I bought, and although this feels strange- to have new apparel after using the same stuff for a few years, and although I trained myself to stop buying and (hopefully) stop craving new things- apparently I am only human, and these new purchases make me enjoy my workouts more.

Will this pull me back into the consumerist trap?

I hope not- this feels somewhat like breaking a restrictive diet- suddenly enjoying a piece of cake after years of not having any, and you feel like the sky is falling.

But it’s not.

As tara said in “gone with the wind”: “tomorrow is still another day”.

Tomorrow I can go back to frugality and contemplating every expense, but today- I am enjoying my reflection in the mirror.

enjoy- the cooliflower.

How I simplify my plant-based proteins!

Chia is a well known “superfood” that’s been around for decades.

Actually- it is an ancient Aztec grain known from around 3500 bc(!).

Apparently in Mayan- “chia” means “strength”. there you go. so simple.
I think it is fair to say that Everybody knows what chia is and how beneficial it is to eat it.

So what now? why this sudden retro all of a sudden??

Well, I actually stopped using chia seeds in my smoothies since they stuck to the Vitamix bowl and wouldn’t let go no matter what.

Plus they changed the taste and consistency of the smoothy to something very jello-like.

Matter of taste, I know.
The thing is, a couple of weeks ago I became aware of a simple method that changed the chia game for me, and being a generous human being, I am sharing, so all of you can go back to devouring chia like monsters.you are more than welcome.

*there is this vegan doctor I saw on youtube that keeps calling everyone “my beloveds”. maybe I should do that too.

(Naaaa. no way. can’t keep a straight face even while writing this, sorry. )

Actually-devouring chia like monsters isn’t an absolutely good idea , since I’ve learned that too much chia is not a good idea: chia absorbs water quickly and effectively, and becomes jelly-like not only in a chia pudding jar but also in your stomach…

My youngest son is turning 15 in a few months and has decided he wants to build more muscle. he is lean though wasn’t very fit until a few months ago when he suddenly (and independently- I swear I had nothing to do with this) got it into his teenager mind that health and nutrition is actually a thing.

Since this transition fills me with utter joy and gives me something to discuss with him other than “mom, you’re old, stop it” and “not funny mom, bye”, I dived right into this challenge, and started looking for nutritious protein-packed foods that he will eat.

Mind you he is not vegan, sadly not even vegetarian- yes I know- some people have it all -I see those couples online smiling and cutting turnips with their spouse and enthusiastically going on about what a great life they have with their vegan family eating kale and wild rice.

Not in my house.

Meat and chicken breast, stews, pizza and cheese toasts, omelets and hard-boiled eggs, tuna, and sushi. yep. the whole shebang.

As I have told you before, I know my family well enough to understand that starting a war on this subject will only make them cave in and refuse to try the vegan options I sneak in from time to time.

I am so confident in my vegan path that I don’t give a damn if they are on board with me or not (yet), and I don’t think less of them for not “seeing the light”. (yet).

Back to the chia.

So my son said he would like to get back to adding chia seeds to the smoothies, and added that the protein in chia seeds is very high (true that! in 100 grams of chia seeds there are 17 grams of protein- that’s 100% more then tofu, 50% more then eggs, the same as oats, and almost as much as meat (well ok not almost as much but not very far- 100 grams of red meat has 26 grams of protein- I would say, distant relatives).

But what about that sticky thing?

I suddenly remembered that while serving on my last Vipassana course, I met this girl who brought chia seeds and mixed them in a bowl, added water and kept it in the fridge.

She said this mixture can keep for up to a week in the fridge.


I tried this- and discovered that the water intake of the seeds is amazing- I kept adding water to the chia ixture every morning because the consistency of the chia pudding got so thick during the night.

By the way, I store the mixture in a glass jar. just saying. in case you were interested or something.

I am well aware that this is how you make chia pudding, but the trick here is not to eat it as pudding, but to use it for every other use you would use dry chia seeds.
*I personally don’t like chia pudding on its own so this way I get to enjoy the benefits of the wonder seed, it doesn’t stick to the Vitamix- since it already absorbed a lot of water, it doesn’t alter the taste of the smoothy- for the same reason, plus- it quadruples the amount of chia you can get out of a 300 gram pack- since it quadruples in size when it absorbs the water. (can’t get away from the frugal point).

I also made my son “energy treats” raw, no unnecessary baking in this hot summer por favor-

here’s how:

I grounded a cup of oats in my Brown hand mixer.

To the bowl I added raw tahini, (a few tbsp) unsweetened date syrup, (a few tbsp) flax seeds, (guess what- a few tbsp), coconut shreds, (a few what??)and the above mentioned soaked chia seeds, (the same amount) mixed it up to a consistency that is not too tough nor too runny, and allowed me to form these balls, and immediately stuck them in the freezer for good measure.

this way they can keep for a few weeks- not that they get to live that long.

Yes they do stick to each other, I don’t mind as long as they separate amicably.


the protein in oats, tahini, flax, and chia is quite high, and the additional non sweetened date syrup makes this thing a great snack so there you go.

enjoy- the cooliflower.

Cold showers??? seriously?? 6 reasons to try it!




Wait- before you get all excited and think I’m a hero and a grade A + frugal warrior: full disclosure- I take cold showers only in the summer+fall, I live in a (very) hot place, and since we have lots of sun and solar panels, I can spoil myself rotten and enjoy about half of the shower using hot water-with no additional cost.

I do not take cold showers in the winter time yet- though this is definitely on my bucket list- so to speak. I wish I were a strong-minded brave hearted enough person to take cold showers in the winter.

But first- let’s address the why would I choose to use cold water in the shower when all I have to do -at summer time- since as I said we have solar panels that use the solar free energy to warm up the water- is let the water run for two minutes in the shower until they warm up?

If you are a frugal and an environmental enthusiast- I believe the answer was right there in the question.

Because I can’t stand to see precious water running with no use for even a few seconds, let alone a minute or 2.

I tried using the bucket system- frankly- carrying that heavy bucket out of the shower and watering outside right after every shower I took- well….not a yay.

But- there 5 (!!!) added benefits to this method, and they are:

#1: the philosophical point of view: 

Being an avid believer in stoicism, it was imperative for me to adapt to fairly uneasy conditions- out of my comfort zone, to fully embrace the concept that materialism is not to be relied on, and should not be your goal, on the contrary- and this brings me to #2:

#2: always be prepared:

I don’t mean 10,000 bean cans in the garage, I mean there may be times -for instance, while traveling- that you will have no hot water in the shower.

Right now this is the only example I can think of that isn’t a disaster kind of situation-maybe a limited power cut and you have just finished a long workout – there -I found another one- and a realistic one nonetheless.

Why not let your body get acquainted with the experience in advance?

#3: It is said to be good for your skin:

I believe it has something to do with closing open pores and enhancing blood flow, but I am no expert. I can only tell you that in my experience- here comes #4-

#4: This is really nice- once you get used to it.

I am no masochist I can tell you that and I like it nonetheless.

Sure- it stuns you at first and you feel like swearing (ok- I feel like swearing, you would feel like knitting pink socks for a newly born), but after a few seconds you suddenly find out you are smiling ( ok- I am smiling- you will be swearing).

#5: well yes- the frugal point- can’t avoid it if you wish to retire early. 

Water going to waste= money down the drain. 

Money down the drain=less money in your savings account. 

Less money in your savings account= more time on the job.

Simple as that.

Please don’t tell me “it’s only small money”, and your “comfort is nothing to dismiss” and all that

#1: there is no such thing as “small money”. 

If you didn’t understand it by now- you must be lightyears away from early retirement.

small money has this strange tendency to always add up, and eventually, become big money- and creep up on you by surprise.

Kind of like calories and *”cheat meals” whatever that is.

*(who are you cheating???-it’s you and your body, wake up and be responsible for what you eat, eat whatever-whenever- just don’t think you are cheating anyone- especially not your clever body. )

#2: about your comfort- you are absolutely right- but getting out of your comfort zone- is a great way to expand that zone.

So why not in the winter too?

great question, and as I said- this is a mental barrier I haven’t crossed yet. mind you that I definitely believe this is a mental issue and not a physical one since I believe the body can definitely benefit from cold showers any time and this- as many changes- only take some adaptation.

I am planning on trying this winter, not promising succession- I love a good hot shower in the winter.

I never claimed to be a grade A+ frugal warrior.

enjoy- the cooliflower.











Why I’m trying to avoid pastries and baked goods

I love freshly baked bread, buns, quiches, brownies, if it has yeast and sugar, even some salt is acceptable- I stand in line.

Or used to.

I don’t actually need to stand in any line since I love spending time in the kitchen and baking is not rocket science.

I beg all offended artisan bakers forgiveness, but this is the truth.

If you have a Kenwood /the likes of it, a decent enough oven (no need for fancy sh**, a regular working clean one will do just fine),  flour, live yeast, sugar, salt, and warm water/plant milk -you are set for success.

Mind you baking is the numero uno trick for entertaining people.

This always works.

Your kids are grown ups and announced they are coming in an hour?

get the pizza ready to the level of toppings by then.


MIL or some other VIP are coming and you are too lazy to fancy up the table?

Small Foccacias topped with whatever you have in the fridge.

IMG_20190318_122512.jpgEveryone at home is hungry and you only have enough soup for 70% of the house population?

Get that grand Foccacia rolling in 10 minutes.








The kids want “something to eat” and you will not give in to processed snacks?

Let them help you bake their own homemade buns. I assure you they will devour them like locust- because it’s yummy + they connected with the buns while making them.

IMG_20190610_112316.jpgSo what’s the problem?

Well, the problem is I am about to turn 51 in a month, and in my personal experience- when I so much as sniff a bun, look at a focaccia or glance at freshly baked bread- I gain 2 pounds,

I kid you not, It’s enough for me to stand next to these things and I feel my organs expanding.

This is an absolutely amazing phenomena mind you. I should be on the discovery channel or something.

You might wonder so what.

Legitimate question.

I think that as much as this question is legitimate- my personal answer is legitimate too.

I believe that to each his own, and size most definitely does not determine beauty in my opinion. it does, however, in my personal experience, influence my athletic performance, and my emotional wellbeing- as a direct result of the first.

As of January this year, I have been practicing intermittent fasting, meaning that (with some exceptions) I do not eat after lunch, which is around 13 am -or earlier. on some days I do feel hungrier -I eat a snack or something after that but I try not to exceed 15: 00, otherwise, I simply don’t feel well. my body has adjusted to the rhythm of fasting until 8:00 am, after my first workout.

More on that –Trying to listen to my body

So- intermittent fasting??

6 Healthy simple vegan snacks+frugal tips

Dealing with my body issues (cup A personality type?)

In my personal experience, eating baked goods ( meaning- carbs) is very filling, yet not as filling and not as nutritious as protein-based meals, and since I eat only breakfast and lunch, I simply can’t “waste my food space” on the beloved carbs.

I also found out that once you get reacquainted with simple raw fruits and veggies, nothing added to them, you rediscover they actually taste great just the way they are.

Meaning no need to bake a fruit cake out of them.that is unless they are ripe to the point of no return- then you can bake their a## away for all I care.






*I already told you many times I am no nutritionist or whatever- I am a 51 years old retired lawyer, doing my best to keep myself healthy and strong because I am an introvert and a strong believer in trust thy selves .-

I am totally aware that baked goods are really tempting, and many doctors are saying that a diet that excludes carbs is dangerous-

Well, I don’t exclude carbs altogether- I eat brown rice, potatoes, rice noodles- but in moderation- basically as a side to my protein based main dish.

Do I feel deprived?

Well, to say the truth- sometimes I do.

I bake a lot for my family, and it has happened that I was tempted to eat some focaccia or the likes, but since I spend a lot of time and effort in preparing myself fresh, healthy and tasty food every day, ( I love eating and  I appreciate food) the feeling of deprivation is rare and passes quickly.

On the other hand- I feel the advantages of my pastry free diet almost every day while exercising, and every evening when I go to bed not feeling hungry and miserable.

enjoy- the cooliflower.

Is being a clueless woman actually a virtue?? (Bridget Jones as a test case)

Yep, Bridget. Jones.

Come on- don’t roll your eyes at me.

It’s summer here, temperatures are around 98 Fahrenheit -(or should I say Farenhight) and I have a thing about using the air-condition – it is not environmental, not frugal- and I am trying to acclimate myself to natural occurring temperatures -be it  high temperatures or low ones- from the  philosophical point of view of being able to enjoy the moment truly- including being hot in the summer and cold in the winter.

I believe it was the Greek philosopher Seneca that although being wealthy -made a point of sleeping once a week on the bare floor with his servants in order to prove the point – that you should always expect the worst to happen- and be prepared for it+almost nothing materialistic is actually needed in order to lead a happy life.

here is a great episode of the school of life- recommended highly- Alain de button explains philosophical ideas in such a pleasant way that makes you want to run and read a philosophical essay- when you realize that the raw material is not as understandable ( this- my dears- is the understatement of the universe) and it’s just Alain de button’s miracles that make it understandable.

school of life- on stoicism

Having said all that- I do have a ceiling fan that works night and day so.

Anyway- it is summer ‘ and a hot one too, I am retired, and sometimes I read what is classified as “chick lit”- just to have a good time and well- a no brainer too.

I don’t watch television, and don’t play all kinds of games on the phone -never crushed any candy or anything like that- and I don’t have a facebook or twitter account.

Boring, I know.

Boring- yet not bored.

I do read chick lit from time to time as I said, and that satisfies my need for cheap thrills as Sia said.

So I just borrowed from the library what I believe is the latest of Bridget’s diaries- the “mad about the boy” book. though I’m not absolutely sure about it- I didn’t read them all- saw the first movie and kind of enjoyed it but since I don’t go to movies either- I didn’t follow up. actually- I didn’t really care who she married, what more disasters happened to her, and how much she weighed during every disaster.

But- as I said- it’s summer- yadda yadda yadda- (by the way-  apparently “Seinfeld” is celebrating its 30th anniversary- and that- my friends- is definitely something to celebrate in my opinion- brilliant show- a brilliant combination between Larry David’s humor and Jerry Seinfeld’s one.)

So I read the book- and got so worked up I couldn’t calm down.

I started thinking maybe there is a raging feminist hiding in me.

The book starts with Bridget being 51 and 18 kilos (40 pounds) heavier than her desired weight, she is a widow ( mark was killed trying to defend one of his clients) and lucky for her- mark made sure she can lead a cushioned debt-free life, experimenting in script writing and cougaring under 30 handsome young men all the while drinking alcohol with her friends- that except for 1 seem as clueless and lost as her.

As usual- we get to read about her weight in every entry on her diary, and she loses those 40 pounds in 3 months by following a shady clinical (or so she says) diet that consists only of protein chocolate pudding and protein bars.

I have no Idea how much she exercises- if she does at all- she keeps mentioning how important it is to exercise but there is no actual consistent record of that other than an occasional mention of her going to Zumba or not getting on her training bike though she feels she must- but then gets entangled in one of her tweeter complications and doesn’t have the time or something.

She doesn’t gain that weight back although her diet -as reported by her- consists of grated mozzarella cheese, alcohol and ham and cheese paninis from Starbucks.

She manages to mess up simple everyday tasks- although having a nanny for her kids and working maybe 2 hours a day -at maximum- on her script.

There is no mentioning of her financial awareness- it seems she is also clueless in that area- as in any other aspect of her life.

And somehow- this clueless feature is considered to be ultra cute by everyone and gets her together with whom she describes as a stable sensible smart guy- that this helplessness appeals to him.

At first, I tried to understand why would anyone consider this behavior to be appealing.

I am aware this book was published 5 years ago- so maybe it’s simply that times changed since then.

I hope so.

But after a while I realized something.

Perhaps-just perhaps- there are many men and women out there , that are intimidated by opinionated type A women that stand strongly on their own 2 feet, ( aka- “bitches”) and would much rather be in a relationship with someone clueless, that does not intimidate them in any way, and whenever they compare themselves to that helpless woman- they are way ahead of them .what an ego boost.

These clueless women are naturally much more friendly -they have no other choice but to be friendly- otherwise who will help them when they get in their next mess? and are always grateful and make their helper feel like they are heroes-  even when unclogging a sink.

I believe no woman -or man for that matter- can let herself-himself – sink into that mess of a life, counting on the universe- or a man- to save them.

Having your entire emotional existence relying on the number of tweeter followers, of the number of times your man (or woman) calls you or texts you- is a miserable way of living -in my opinion.

Having your physical existence relying on that kind of magic- is just as dangerous -again in my opinion.

I am not a technical person at all, and I wouldn’t consider myself very strong, but I do everything in my power to learn how to fix common problems on my own -with the help of the loyal Internet, of course…

Apparently, there is a tutorial for everything online, just click and watch. many times- it is a possible job for you to do- if you only invest the time and will to learn.

  • here comes a little bragging:

The picture above is from when I had a flat tire getting to work one very early morning.

when I got to the parking lot at my workplace, I wondered what now.

This was a public office, there were men around- security guards, other lawyers, visitors.

I could have waited until one of them arrives and ask him to change my tire, surely he would.

But instead, I opened Youtube and wrote: “how to change a tire”.  Changing the tire did take me a long time- and some mean cuts were involved, but I did it, all alone.

Mind you my car was no tiny car- a Mazda CX5 and the tire was original so the screws were as tight as whatever you have in mind.

Just saying.

My washing machine started leaking on Friday, and at first, I thought- its 5 years old- let’s buy a new one- the technician will charge 30% of the price of a new one and this won’t guarantee another mess in a few months, but then- I decided not to give in.

I started searching online- and put my son’s school backpack for an easy cycle in the washing machine- and sat down in front of the machine to see where the leak is coming from. after close to an hour of watching the machine turning I reached my conclusions:

Apparently (according to my searches- I am no technician don’t take my word for anything)  a water leak can be caused by 3 possible defects: the water pump is clamped, the door is not sealed, and the soap dispenser has a defect that runs all the way to the door.

So first disconnect from electricity. then check the door -it has a rubber seal that should be tear free and in place, take out the soap dispenser and check for clogs and open the knob releasing the water pumps filter, don’t turn too strong if it won’t open -maybe there is something blocking it. clean the filter and put back to place.

Oh and another thing- if you just checked your water pump like I did last week- please make sure you close it tightly afterward, or it will leak.



More ranting on my feminist views:

The possible hidden feminist story behind Cinderella -and why I stopped wearing high heels.

I have a problem with “I need you “songs

How much should we teach our children about money?

Why I bring myself flowers every friday (and how I do it frugally!)

love to hear your thoughts- the cooliflower.










Tips for frugal simple vegan homesteading

Why not share my wisdom I asked myself one day.

So I am sharing my valuable great simple yet useful, frugal and vegan tips.

#1: If you can’t beat them-freeze them!

I am probably not the only person to have opened a can of coconut cream and use only a little of it- (this stuff really goes a long way and super dense too).

We all know what happens to a can of anything that is stashed in the fridge.

Why bother -put it straight in the trash bin.


Pouring the cream into an ice cube tray and freezing it right away- then zipping the cubes in a zipper bag or glass container that allows you to take out only a small amount of cream every time- and the rest will live happily ever after in your freezer- ready to use. (well not ever after- for a reasonable time- you get the point).


#2: If you can’t beat them- bake them!

I bought a bunch of hot peppers- at my partner’s request. 2 weeks flew by- and maybe 3 were used (he is far from frugality or environmentalism, I love him just the same. I don’t believe sharing the same believes on every single subject out there is the secret to being a supporting and loving couple. he is also a carnivore, and so is the rest of my family, and I cook meat stews and bake pizzas for them all the time).

Anyway- the forgotten hot peppers were beginning to show signs of menopause (am I allowed to say something like that because I’m 51 in 2 months?) so the first instant I had an oven going for something else (homemade buns maybe) I stuck the peppers in a glass container, with some garlic, olive oil, apple cider vinegar, and salt.I cut some lines through them with a knife- so as not to let them blow their minds off in the oven. I let them bake until they became all puffed and soft –


And voila- this dish is by far less hot then eating the peppers fresh, and keeps for quite a time sealed in the fridge.

I would definitely do the same to sweet peppers as well. and wouldn’t hesitate to try it on carrots either.

#3: Remember those rice noodles you bought 6 months ago??

Yes, we all just wait for the right time to use them in a fancy spicy curry or whatever but never have the time/energy to get to it.

Simply use them like you would use regular spaghetti.

I mean no need to cook -just let sit in boiling water until quite soft but not mushy, then transfer to your tomato sauce- this one is with tofu and a coconut cream frozen cube.



#4: It ain’t over till it’s over.

Before throwing any bottle containing liquids to the recycling bin- even if you are sure you got every drop of the liquid- try standing the bottle on its head for 30 minutes. you can go read a book or something meanwhile. no need to stare at it the whole time. you will be surprised to see the 3-5 tbsp of liquid you find out that remained in the bottle trying to escape.


#5: Compost-compost-compost-no need for a fancy composter either.


#6: again- freeze them!

This ginger nectar is Melanie Daponte’s Idea, as seen on her truly great (and useful!) blog at veganflavorista.org. Melanie is a plant-based personal chef and has both a creative and simple way of cooking healthy food.

I went straight away and made the nectar- and to enhance the fun- froze everything in ice cube trays-so now it doubles as tasty nectar+cool ice cubes- in my fizzy water or simple cold water.


#7: A kitchen related hack: do not throw away your toothbrushes or toothbrush tips in electric toothbrushes!

keep them in your cabinet for cleaning all those small -difficult – the sponge can’t reach there and needs a good scrub places/ such as the rings of your gas stove, etc.



#8: Last- but certainly not least: that home-made vegan dark chocolate ……


If you fancy a bit of chocolate here (and there), but don’t feel like spending big bucks on artisan 90% chocolate that’s vegan too- just make it by yourself! another plus- add any crazy addition you want- it’s yours. black pepper? good! almond? walnuts? super! lemon zest? great! raw tahini? acceptable! cayenne pepper? hot! you get the drift I believe.

There are many recipes online- and all of them share the basic 3 ingredients: high-quality cocoa powder ( no- not chocolate milk powder- the actual bitter cocoa powder- as in the real deal, agave syrup to taste, and coconut oil- again I would advise on a high-quality one because this is it- no baking or cooking or anything to help pool a poor tasting ingredient out of it’s- and your- misery.

the coconut oil needs to be nice and warm- heat it for a little to get the cocoa to blend in nicely- add the agave -and anything else you feel like- and freeze. when it hardens enough -just break it to uneven pieces -because it gives it the artisanal look -and freeze again for future use.

Enjoy- the cooliflower.